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A Reminder to Let Go of Our Expectations

Once again, the Universe seems to be sending me messages…or is that Hank? I was immediately drawn to this post from October 2013. It’s about letting go of our expectations of HOW messages or opportunities come to us, and the art of connecting with people (and why it’s so important for people like me…mediums).

Briefly, when we have the how we want to hear from our loved one: a touch on the shoulder, hear his/her voice audibly, have a visit in our dreams, feel their presence, set in our minds, we can miss the ways they ARE communicating with us.

Remember, their strength may be sending you their name all the time but if you have it in your head that you want to actually SEE a vision of them, you’ll ignore the instances of seeing or hearing their name everywhere. You’ll see those as coincidences rather than signs and simply dismiss them.

As you know, I’ve had trouble connecting with my beloved on the Other Side. Then I catch myself thinking, but have I really? I want to sense Hank near me, I want to FEEL his presence. And because of that, have I been dismissing the signs he IS sending me?

Like going for a walk several months ago, crying and talking to him (yeah, my neighbors probably think I’m crazy but I don’t care plus a lot of them know I’m a recent widow anyway), and pleading for him to help us financially, we desperately needed money for food.

As I began my walk, I had to cross over to the other side of the street because there were neighbors with a dog that I really didn’t want to talk to ahead of me. (Note: I never walk on that side of the street going that way.)

As I sobbed and pleaded to Hank, “We need money NOW!” I looked down and there was a $5 bill amongst the leaves next to the curb!

I looked around for another person who may have dropped it but there was no one. I thanked Hank profusely and asked him (along with all his guides and angels) to keep helping us financially.

know he’s been working overtime helping us survive, so why am I not registering these little acts of assistance as him connecting with me? I mean, I am…but I’m not, you know?

One thing Hank was, was a hard worker and a good provider. Somehow, we’d make enough to squeak by every month. Even when a job fell through, he’d have a call within a day for a side job to make up for it. And because I am, by nature, frugal, I made sure we saved everywhere we could to stretch the money he made as far as it could go. We never had “extra” due to my unfortunate unemployment, but we had enough for bills…just.

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So this week, think back, and pay attention to the little things that worked (and work) out in your life, the happy accidents or the synchronicities. What were your expectations of a call, situation, meeting, event? Did you adapt or hold tight to those expectations and what were the results?

Have you asked your loved one to “show themselves” while ignoring more subtle signs from them? Don’t dismiss the subtle signs! Thank them for the unexpected sign so they know they can use that same sign again and again to let their presence known to you to offer you comfort. Write them down and date them and I bet you’ll see a pattern emerge.

I’m trying to remember to do this myself so I can fully acknowledge Hank’s communications with me, so I’m right there with you!

For another great example of letting go of your expectations on HOW you may get a sign or message or guidance, please click here.

Love and light,

Lisa

P.S. Don’t forget to subscribe to my weekly newsletter during the month of September for a chance to win a FREE 20-minute reading! And, of course, keep you updated on news, special offers and blog posts. Thanks and good luck!

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Newsletters & Posts

Hello everyone!

I’ve been keeping my newsletter subscribers up-to-date on my progress and just realized I haven’t kept you, my wonderful random audience, up-to-date as well! Sorry about that!

As I begin to rebuild my life after the loss of my dear, sweet husband, and my brain fog lifts enough to comprehend what I’m reading and learning, I have to remind myself to take baby steps and be kind to myself. I hope, in your journey with/through grief, you do this as well.

Be kind to yourself. Do what you can each day, even if it’s simply getting yourself out of bed and getting something to eat. And, cry all you want. Don’t let anyone ever tell you you need to stop crying.

I’ve always said, “The depth of my grief/my tears is the depth of my love.” I refuse to hold back my tears for my beloved.

By the same token, if you don’t feel the need to cry, that’s okay too. We all grieve in different ways. You may not cry now but years later, and that’s okay too. Do whatever feels right to you at the moment. ((HUG))

Sending you healing wishes, love and light,

~Lisa

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Business news: This last week I’ve been busy. I’ve removed all but the last two of my BlogTalkRadio episodes as my channel has not really gotten any listeners for more than a year. It’s been two or three years(?) since I stopped broadcasting, so that’s not surprising. For me, though, it was also a symbolic gesture so that I can start anew.

At the same time, I’ve been looking into joining a radio network specifically with a focus on spirituality, and heart-centered business/life coaching amongst other like-minded entrepreneurs.

Unfortunately, my business isn’t big enough yet to afford to do so, so I may be restarting my weekly call-in show using BlogTalkRadio once again. If you’d like to be kept up-to-date, please subscribe to my weekly newsletter! (click in the right margin to do so—>) Thanks!

Don’t forget, when you subscribe during the month of September 2018, you will be entered into a drawing for a chance to win a FREE 20-minute reading as a thank-you for being so patient and understanding as I grieve.

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P.S. If you’re new to my site, here is an interesting post I wrote in 2013 about dual readings. What is a Dual Reading, you ask? Click to find out! It’s quite fascinating and a lot of fun when this happens! Enjoy!

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Special offer in place!

To those who have been subscribed to my WordPress.com site for years and have yet to unsubscribe then re-subscribe to my new mailing list:

I’ve been working on a new platform for my business which will allow me to better manage my posts and emails and, keep *you* up-to-date on any special news.

As a thank you for being so kind and patient with me as I grieve the loss of my husband and try to rebuild my life, I have created a special offer.

From now through September 30, 2018, everyone who is on my new mailing list will be eligible for a chance to win a free 20-minute mediumship reading. I will randomly choose the winner from that list on October 1, 2018. 

Please know, if you have friends or family who are curious or could use some help connecting with their loved ones on the Other Side, you can pass this offer on to them as well.

All you (and they) have to do is sign up for my newsletter using the “Sign Up For My Newsletter” link on the right side of this page to be entered into the drawing. 

Love and light,

Lisa

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New Sign Up Link!

Hello all!

I’ve been busy working on a few things to make your life (and mine) easier. It’s taken me forever but I’ve persevered. Here we go:

If you remember from my post in December 2017 (has it really been three months already?), I now have my payment and scheduling system set up for mediumship readings. It’s not exactly how I’d like it but it works! Oh, and yes, you should be able to schedule a reading through May 2018 now.

WordPress only allows me to do so much here and, even though I do pay an annual fee, there are limitations, and I have to do a lot of work-arounds. In the next year, I plan on moving/shifting over to a new site where it should look a little better and more professional but for now, it’s good. Thank you for bearing with me. 🙂

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I’m happy to report I’ve set up a new link for you to subscribe to my newsletter where you’ll receive the latest news, blog posts and special offers I’m working on. If you follow me on Twitter, you may have heard me tweet about some things I’m working on a few months ago. Hang in there with me! I’m doing a lot of developer work and it’s been a challenge.

IMPORTANT! PLEASE READ!

If you’ve subscribed to be notified of new blog posts prior to today’s date, could you please re-subscribe through the new link right below the Search window where it says “SUBSCRIBE!” Simply click on the “Sign up for my newsletter!” and follow the instructions.

I’m using a new tool to help me communicate with you wonderful people and I think this newsletter will work much better than a quick notification that a new blog post has been published. If it all works properly, the new blog posts will be delivered right to your inbox and you can read them at your leisure.

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As my mind slowly clears, I’ve been able to move forward with my business: baby step by baby step. Far too slowly for me, to be honest, but these last few months, I’m finally feeling capable again.

My thanks to all of my followers, new and established, for your patience and understanding as I slowly emerge from my chrysalis of grief and venture into a new reality where Hank’s physicalness is so greatly absent yet I know he is still loving and supporting me and our son each and every day.

A year and three months later, I’m just beginning to open myself up to sensing him on the Other Side. I keep telling him to bear with me as my heart wrestles with my mind in acknowledging his passing.

For those of you who are at this stage in your grief, I’m right there with you. Be patient and kind to yourself. Give yourself time and lots of love. Your loved ones on the Other Side are with you every step of the way.

Love and light, ~Lisa

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Where Have I Been?

My dear followers and subscribers,

It’s been two years since I’ve posted. What have I been up to? Well, from October 2015-August 2016, I took a year off. I decided to let go of all my efforts to either find a job or earn a steady income since nothing has panned out for many years. I left it up to the Universe to guide me in the direction I was supposed to go. I guess I was lucky I didn’t find work because my time and attention would be consumed by my husband’s journey ahead.

It is with great sorrow that I must tell you that late last Autumn (2016), my beloved husband of 29 years, Hank, suffered several series of small strokes which led to the discovery, in November 2016, of an “untreatable, very aggressive, stage 4 cancer with a +1 gene mutation”. He was gone three and a half weeks later, on December 14, 2016. He was only 56 years old. Hank was, and still is, the love of my life.

One year later, I am still in the depths of sorrow, grieving and struggling to survive emotionally, physically and financially (unfortunately, Hank didn’t have life insurance).

Our son has been phenomenal throughout this tragedy and has helped me so much financially as well as emotionally this past year. Unfortunately, his life and job search was put on hold during the ordeal and, this last year, he’s been working hard to find a permanent full-time job, even if it’s not in his area of interest/degree. He’s still looking.

We talk about his father all the time: remembering Hank’s kindness, his wonderful laugh, his strong, deep voice, things he loved to do, or loved to see.

To be honest, I’m still reeling, and the last few months I’ve been reliving all the trauma of the entire experience. There hasn’t been a day that’s gone by for more than a year when I haven’t cried, and that’s okay. The tears help me grieve. I tell people: The depth of my grief is the depth of my love.

I miss Hank so very much and can now fully comprehend the depth of sorrow some of my clients have experienced. Yes, I now know this incomprehensible loss all too well.

I also find myself asking the same questions my clients ask me, “Why him? He was such a good man.” “Why now?” “Why isn’t he here?” My pain blocks me from knowing the answers, at least for now.

But, there is one thing I know for certain. I am truly blessed to have been loved so deeply by this wonderful, incredibly kind and loving man. A man whom I loved, and will always love, with all my heart and soul.

With love and light, ~Lisa

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