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Special News About My Radio Show!

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Hello everyone!

As you may know, if you follow me on Twitter, I had a bit of a panic this past week and had to take a breather for a couple of days to figure out a new game-plan for creating/publishing podcasts and blog posts.

(Interesting to note that my panic came the night before something HUGE happened in the U.S. & I wonder if I was actually picking up someone else’s panic? That sort of thing has happened to me before – picking up on the energy of world events before finding out about them.)

As you also may know, I am in dire financial straits since my husband passed away in December 2016. Therefore, it is critical I spend my time on projects which have a better chance of bringing in an income.

The brain fog that comes with grieving, especially in the early months/year has lifted, for the most part, but I still can’t multi-task as easily as I, once, could (yet), so I get easily overwhelmed. I know those of you who are grieving understand this challenge.

If all goes well with the basics I’m offering via Patreon, it will free up my worry to be able to do even more to help you (and me!) heal, and improve your intuition in order to create a more positive life moving forward.

Now, when I re-started my BlogTalkRadio show, Messages From The Other Side in October 2018, I mentioned I would produce/write/host the show for a month or two to see how it works out then decide whether or not to continue.

The major change is this:

*I have come to the decision to stop doing my weekly public podcasts, for now.I will, however, create monthly, special-invite, Patron-Only podcasts!

As I mentioned above, I must focus my energy on projects and content which have a better chance to bring in an income, and my public, live radio shows have never brought me paying clients.

Examples: I had my job coaching radio show for three years, helped 1000s of people (callers as well as live & archived listeners), create professional resumes, finetune their job search, network, interview, follow-up, get hired, negotiate their salary, (seriously, I wrote more than 30,000+ words–a book for all my episodes!) and all my time, efforts, research, writing, producing, coaching, didn’t bring me onepaying client.

Same thing happened with my mediumship radio show: I wrote/produced/hosted it for three years, teaching how to best connect with your loved ones on the Other Side, what blocks you may have and how to let go of them, etc, and gave away hundreds of mini-readings, and only got 1 paying client ($50, at the time). She was the host of a “supernatural” radio show where she wanted me to guest, so she felt the need to vet me…which is fine, I don’t mind that. She paid me for my services and I appreciated that.

So, I guested on her show. She thought it would be good exposure for me because she had a larger and longer-established audience, and it would, probably, bring in some much-needed paying clients for me. I agreed because I also had read that this was a good way to promote yourself. Well, I ended up providing TWO HOURS worth of free mini-readings for her callers. Result?  Appreciative callers but not ONE paying client in the days, weeks or months afterwards.

And, please, don’t get me wrong. I am always happy to help those grieving by connecting them to their loved ones but I need to pay my mortgage and eat! So, it seems that, for whatever reason, after a decade’s worth of providing my services for free (both my job coaching as well as my mediumship services), these sorts of promotions simply don’t work for me. They do not result in paying clients.

So, that must go.

*What I will do, though, is have a private, monthly podcast for Patrons only ($5/month Tier) where you will be able to call in (I’ll have a chat room open as well), and I’ll pick 1 or 2 callers to chat with: you can ask questions, share a story, and/or have a free mini-reading!

I need to focus my limited energy (due to grief) on my Patrons.

*I will continue to upload ad-free archived podcasts from my Messages FromThe Other Side radio show from 2013-2016 weekly! In the meantime, I will find a place to store these 100+ episodes for easier reference and access for my Patrons.

*I will also put out a weekly blog post (newsletter) for Patrons-only with helpful insights and guidance for you to connect with your loved ones on the Other Side, improve your own intuition, and help support you in your grieving process.

*Bonus (if I’m not overwhelmed because I really want to do this): I want to pull a motivational, inspirational, insightful card (either tarot or positive affirmations) a few times a week, and if it’s not too overwhelming for me, maybe have it daily. I think we can all use a beautiful piece of artwork + some positive energy these days on a daily basis. 🙂

I haven’t decided whether or not it’ll be a photo or a quick video. I think my batteries are out on my camera, so it may have to be a short video. I use these cards for myself and they are always insightful and bring beauty into my life, so I hope they will do the same for you. I’m being encouraged to do this, so we’ll see what messages come through for all of us!

I believe I’ll be able to do all of the above on a consistent basis. We’ll see how it goes for December (which is a very rough month for me as Hank passed away this month 2 years ago, so I ask for your patience, and thank you in advance. ❤

At the beginning of the year, we’ll see what worked and what didn’t, if I could keep up with everything, and we’ll go from there. I’d love for this to work out for all of us, supporting you through your grief, and supporting you on your own unique spiritual journey in creating a positive, joy-filled life.

I wish you peace, love and light during this holiday season.

~Lisa

 
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A Reminder to Let Go of Our Expectations

Once again, the Universe seems to be sending me messages…or is that Hank? I was immediately drawn to this post from October 2013. It’s about letting go of our expectations of HOW messages or opportunities come to us, and the art of connecting with people (and why it’s so important for people like me…mediums).

Briefly, when we have the how we want to hear from our loved one: a touch on the shoulder, hear his/her voice audibly, have a visit in our dreams, feel their presence, set in our minds, we can miss the ways they ARE communicating with us.

Remember, their strength may be sending you their name all the time but if you have it in your head that you want to actually SEE a vision of them, you’ll ignore the instances of seeing or hearing their name everywhere. You’ll see those as coincidences rather than signs and simply dismiss them.

As you know, I’ve had trouble connecting with my beloved on the Other Side. Then I catch myself thinking, but have I really? I want to sense Hank near me, I want to FEEL his presence. And because of that, have I been dismissing the signs he IS sending me?

Like going for a walk several months ago, crying and talking to him (yeah, my neighbors probably think I’m crazy but I don’t care plus a lot of them know I’m a recent widow anyway), and pleading for him to help us financially, we desperately needed money for food.

As I began my walk, I had to cross over to the other side of the street because there were neighbors with a dog that I really didn’t want to talk to ahead of me. (Note: I never walk on that side of the street going that way.)

As I sobbed and pleaded to Hank, “We need money NOW!” I looked down and there was a $5 bill amongst the leaves next to the curb!

I looked around for another person who may have dropped it but there was no one. I thanked Hank profusely and asked him (along with all his guides and angels) to keep helping us financially.

know he’s been working overtime helping us survive, so why am I not registering these little acts of assistance as him connecting with me? I mean, I am…but I’m not, you know?

One thing Hank was, was a hard worker and a good provider. Somehow, we’d make enough to squeak by every month. Even when a job fell through, he’d have a call within a day for a side job to make up for it. And because I am, by nature, frugal, I made sure we saved everywhere we could to stretch the money he made as far as it could go. We never had “extra” due to my unfortunate unemployment, but we had enough for bills…just.

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So this week, think back, and pay attention to the little things that worked (and work) out in your life, the happy accidents or the synchronicities. What were your expectations of a call, situation, meeting, event? Did you adapt or hold tight to those expectations and what were the results?

Have you asked your loved one to “show themselves” while ignoring more subtle signs from them? Don’t dismiss the subtle signs! Thank them for the unexpected sign so they know they can use that same sign again and again to let their presence known to you to offer you comfort. Write them down and date them and I bet you’ll see a pattern emerge.

I’m trying to remember to do this myself so I can fully acknowledge Hank’s communications with me, so I’m right there with you!

For another great example of letting go of your expectations on HOW you may get a sign or message or guidance, please click here.

Love and light,

Lisa

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BlogTalkRadio Announcement

Hello all! This is an important announcement regarding my weekly call-in radio show on BlogTalkRadio Announcement.

I wanted to let you know that I will no longer be doing my weekly radio show.

I’ve been getting a LOT of signs over the past couple of weeks that it’s time to end this chapter in my life, to let go, so something even better can come into my reality.

Now, since I love radio, I don’t want to say I’ll never use this platform again but in the past month or two, I haven’t had any callers for one too many airings (and no callers even today), and I don’t want this show to turn into a ramble or monologue. That’s not what this is about.

This show is about you. I do this show to be of service to you. I connect you to your loved ones who have passed away in the hopes of helping you realize they are, indeed, only a thought away.

Your loved ones are still here and they still love you and want the best for you. They are here to support and encourage you.

I hope that I’ve helped you learn that you can directly connect with them too. Over the past two and a half years, I’ve given you guidance on how to do so and I thank you with all my heart for this wonderful journey.

When I first went public with my abilities and then my service to you on such a public platform as a weekly call-in radio show, I was absolutely terrified…but I felt it was the next step for me and followed my intuition. You, my listeners and callers, have treated me with great kindness and openness, and that dispelled all of my fears, and I thank you for that.

I don’t think words can express how grateful I am that you allowed me…to be me!

I am touched that you would entrust me with your Self, your life, and your love for your family and friends. I am very grateful to be a part of that connection, and to be of service to you in that way.

So, thank you for joining me, Lisa on Messages From The Other Side on BlogTalkRadio for these past two and a half years. I wish you the best in life, and I send out lots of love and light to you all.

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Please remember, you can always reach me through this site, and through Twitter. My Twitter username is lablady. Should you be interested in scheduling a full 60-minute mediumship reading with me, feel free to contact me via the link on my Contact Me page. And, don’t forget, you can still listen to my shows as they are all archived. Listen to whichever one pulls at you from the list. Spirit has given us all some great messages over the years.

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Have You Been Resisting Your Intuitive Guidance? I Have! That Changes Today.

Coral azaleas in bloom in November!

Coral azaleas in bloom in November!

Hello? Have I grabbed your attention?

You know that intuitive gut feeling that it’s time to do something but, for whatever reason, you don’t? Yup, we’re talking about that. For me, though, I feel it more in my heart than my gut and this time, it took me a couple of years to get to this point! Change can be difficult, can’t it?

I’ve been resisting what my intuition has been telling me for a couple of years now and I give up. Today is the day. I’m surrendering to its guidance and no longer resisting.

You see, for the past 8-10 years (I honestly can’t remember how long it’s been!), I’ve belonged to a writers weekly chat room. I learned an awful lot from the moderator and a few of the people in the chat room early on but have stayed for the social aspect of the group as well as to help others with their journeys, both professionally and personally. It’s the coach in me. 🙂

What’s changed? I have! I feel like I’ve learned as much as I can (a sure sign for me to move on) from the regular members, have encouraged and coached as much as I can and, most importantly, I no longer like who I become when I’m there.

Publicly, I encourage, offer guidance and coaching (even after hours) but there are times when my petty and intolerant side comes out privately. I don’t like myself then. I’m a very tolerant person. I accept people’s belief systems if they differ from mine (it’s what makes life interesting!), I don’t expect people to know everything (I certainly don’t and will continue to learn throughout my lifetime), and I realize that everyone is on their own life journey, going through their own versions of Hell and growth (or stagnancy).

But recently, I find that I’m growing more and more impatient with a few of the members, intolerant of someone’s lack of attention and common courtesy, and I’ve become snarky publicly. Not a good sign. Yes, it’s a part of me, I admit it, like it’s a part of everyone but I don’t like feeling or *being* that way towards people in this chat room. It lowers my vibration and gets me nowhere but frustrated, with myself and the people involved.

Fear and Isolation

As a person who works from home, my social life is non-existent. Our son is in college and my husband’s work doesn’t give itself to socializing after work. This chat room has offered me a connection with, at the time, like-minded people and the thought of letting go of that connection has been fearful. However, this chat room is no longer bringing out the best in me and it’s starting to show publicly. And, that’s not good. Funny thing is, this pettiness and intolerance doesn’t come out any other time in my life!! So, if that’s not a sure sign it’s time to move on, I don’t know what is!

Why has it taken so long?

Interestingly enough, I have been following my intuition about this situation for a while now but not following it to its fullest direction. My intuition has been telling me it’s time to leave but I haven’t because I fear I won’t have another place to go to connect with people.

I have been looking for another group for more than two years now, to no avail. So, I’ve acknowledged and known it’s time to move on but I haven’t let go! The fear of isolating myself further has prevented me from doing so. I wanted to have a new place to go to before letting go of this chat room.

Today, I’m finally embracing my intuition’s entire message: that of letting go in order to move on without having a place to move on toward.

I admit, when the days come every week for me to sign in and participate, it will be difficult for me not to do so but I am putting my trust in the Universe that something new and better for me will become available.

By following my intuition’s push to let go of this chat room, this social connection, I am clearing the space for another connection, an even better one to present itself to me over the next few days, weeks or months. (I really hope it doesn’t take months, though!)

Sometimes you just have to take the risk, let go of the rope, and fall into the unknown. For me, today is the day to do so.

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How about you? Have you ever resisted intuitive guidance only to follow it later,  and what helped you make the decision to do so? I’d love to hear about it!

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Special note: To those from the chat room that may read this, I thank you for so many years of questioning, wisdom, experience, fun and adventurous chats and I wish you all the best in your endeavors. I hope I helped you on your journeys in some small way.

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Do They Miss Us? Do They See Our Pain? Do They See Us Struggle?

My caller today brought up several great questions when my time was already up for my BlogTalkRadio episode. My show is only 30 minutes long, (at this point in time I can’t afford to buy more air-time), and the platform shuts me down after 10 minutes past my allotted time. As a result, I can’t cover everything I’d like to as I do during a private 60-minute mediumship reading.

I would have loved to further clarify and discuss Joy’s questions about life on the Other Side. So, I’ll attempt to do so here keeping in mind I’m going by what she asked. I hope I didn’t misunderstand her questions and that these answers prove helpful.

Love never dies.

Joy asked if her loved one was aware of how much she missed him, of how much she hurts, and “does he miss me?” “Does he care that I’m in so much pain?”

These are all wonderful questions and I attempted to explain as best as I could within a couple of minutes and being fully aware that the caller was about to be disconnected. I feel I couldn’t address them as well as I’d like to and like I usually do during a scheduled mediumship reading.

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First and foremost, my experience and studies have taught me that when our loved ones cross over, they go through an orientation process themselves, getting used to the form of energy they now are compared to the human form they were while they were in our lives. Some take longer than others to adjust, especially if it was a tragic or confusing ending on this side.

I also believe that we really are Spirit having a human experience rather than humans having occasional spiritual experiences. I don’t think we can truly comprehend this, however, unless we’ve either had a huge spiritual experience like an NDE (Near-Death Experience) or another out-of-body experience where we are given a glimpse of who we truly are.

I, myself, have never experienced such so I can only imagine that level of awareness. By all accounts from people I trust and respect, it is truly an incredible and enlightening experience and it is sometimes difficult to come back to our human-ness afterwards. But the message (one of them) is crystal clear: We are love and we are loved. Every single one of us. 🙂

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So, Joy, to answer your question: Does he miss me?

No, because he’s not gone, he’s with you right now, by your side. He sees everything that is happening – that’s why he mentioned the red shirt & necklace you were wearing when we spoke & that you were sitting on the bed. That’s why he had me say, “He sees you.” There was meaning in that phrase because he knew you had a question about that, even though I didn’t know this until the end of our conversation. He realized the importance of it.

Missing someone, to us, means we are separated from them. As humans, when our loved ones pass away, there is a separation and it’s very painful. Our loved ones on the Other Side, however, realize there is no separation.

They are still present in our lives but we can’t see them with our eyes or touch them with our hands anymore. That’s why it’s so difficult for us. We grieve the physical presence of our loved ones because we’re human! We live our lives in a very tactile manner and when someone is absent from our world, it’s very noticeable and it hurts. We miss them.

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Does he see what I’m doing, how much I’m suffering?

Yes, Joy, he sees what you are doing, who you are visiting, how you miss him and can feel your heartache. That is why he sends you signs. It’s his way of saying, “I’m here. I love you. I know what you’re going through.”

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Does he care?

Yes! I can state that with certainty. When we switch forms, we don’t forget our love for each other. Our view expands with the realization that there is life after human death, with the realization that Spirit lives on. And we carry the love we have for each other’s souls with us!

From my experience, it seems once we are on the Other Side, we are able to recognize and truly feel the depth of our love, especially if we had a difficult time admitting or expressing it in this lifetime. If we were lucky enough to fully embrace it and experience it here on Earth, it is still with us on the Other Side.

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How do you know he cares?

Because you sense him, feel him when you honor his physical presence in your life by still doing the things you loved doing with him, seeing the people you two would see if he was there. Because every time you think of him, that’s you sensing his presence and his love for you. It will become clearer and stronger as you heal.

You also know he cares because he came through in a mediumship reading with a lot of unique validations for you! The line of trees, the outdoors (the nature preserve you spoke about), the pond, among other things.

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Now, the reason I mentioned to Joy there was a possibility of still holding onto some anger from a loved one passing – it’s not so much a hateful anger, that’s not what I meant. It’s a subtle anger which the question: Does he even care if I’m in pain? holds within it which is perfectly normal to experience.

It goes along with the hurt and the pain of losing a loved one too soon, and is usually followed by the question: How could he leave me? It’s more of a hurt, so maybe anger wasn’t the best word I could’ve used. Forgive me. And also remember that behind anger, even a hint of anger, is hurt.

I still say writing a letter to your loved one who has crossed over is very therapeutic. Write out your pain, your hurt, your grief, your love, and ask all the questions you want to ask him. If you’d like to take it a step further, James Van Praagh suggests after writing this letter, to put it away for two weeks.

After two weeks, sit down and write a letter from your loved one to you and you’ll be surprised with the information and messages that come through!

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I always wish I had more time for the mini-mediumship readings which I offer on my radio show because of beautiful questions like these. And, if I’ve paraphrased incorrectly or misinterpreted the questions (due to lack of time), my apologies to Joy. However, these particular questions still matter!

Most of the time, during a private reading, all of these questions are answered by the end of the hour without the client even asking them. It’s just impossible for me to do this during a 15 or even 20-minute mini-reading. I can only give you a snippet of what a mediumship reading is like with as many validations and/or messages that your loved ones want to impart to me.

I thank Joy for the questions and hope this post clarifies or explains things a little further for her and to all who read it. There’s so much to learn and know about the Other Side and Spirit, and my beliefs have evolved over the years because of my curiosity, my questions, my studies, and my experiences. Never be afraid to ask questions and find the right answers for you!

One message or belief that has always been a truth for me has never changed, and it’s this: love and Spirit never die. ♥

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Friendly Weekly Reminder!

Hello everyone!

Yes, I’m having a live Messages From The Other Side BlogTalkRadio show today, March 15, 2014 at 3:30pm EST. See details below and I look forward to connecting you with your loved ones!

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Air date: March 15, 2014

Description: Do you want everything in your life to happen, to change right now? Listen in as Lisa reflects on last week’s caller and the brainstorming and intuitive life coaching it triggered for Lisa about wanting everything in your life to happen NOW. Can it be done? Should it be done that way? Is there a price to pay? Lisa will also be giving mini-readings to 1 or 2 callers.

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Your Friendly Weekly Reminder of Live Show!

Hello all!

Yes, there will be a live Messages From The Other Side show today, March 1, 2014 at 3:30pm EST on BlogTalkRadio.

I wasn’t sure I was going to be able to do a show today due to allergies – (fuzzy head syndrome) but I decided this gave me the perfect opportunity to address a question I’ve been asked before.

So, if you have any questions or are concerned that you aren’t receiving messages from your loved ones, please call in. I’d love to chat with you and if my allergies abate and Spirit chooses to connect with me, I’ll give you a free mini-reading. 🙂

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Air date: March 1, 2014

Description: Have you ever wondered why mediums (or you) can’t or don’t seem to receive messages sometimes? There are a variety of reasons! Tune in as Lisa explains. And, if you’re having trouble seeing signs from your loved ones who have crossed over, please call in with your questions. Call-in number is: (646) 929-0732.

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