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Weekly Video News and Self-Care While Grieving

Hello, all!

My apologies for not notifying you sooner. I’ve been struggling to write this post for a few weeks now. Rewriting, editing, rewriting it several times.

But, I can’t lie to you. Quite frankly, grief is exhausting; worry and life itself is exhausting for me right now…and has been for more than 2 years and 8 months.

As you know, I have produced four months of weekly videos as an experiment, and to learn about YouTube and to push myself to do something “less-than-perfect” in order to move forward in my life. It was also a promotional tool in the hopes of attracting paying clients for both my mediumship and job/life coaching services. Sadly, it hasn’t attracted one paying client.

Focus on the beauty.

Three+ Sundays ago, I had something urgent I needed to work on for both my son and myself, so I couldn’t do a video, and the next weekend? Well, with all the tragedies which are happening in the U.S., I just couldn’t pretend to be in a positive mood when I’ve been so upset.

I know, maybe now *is* the time to do a positive video when we need it the most but, my heart simply isn’t in it, and I’ve learned during this journey with grief, that I should pay attention to that.

Yes, I’ve pushed myself in doing many other things that needed to be done that I didn’t want to do, but this is different.

To complicate matters, my PTSD was triggered when I recently went to my neighbors to give them some things for their grandkids (I’m decluttering) and found out her husband had just suffered a stroke the day before. Or maybe it was two days?

My anxieties kicked in immediately so I’m not sure what I heard. He was standing at the door talking to me and I noticed a lot of subtle injuries, not just the use of his hand which he seemed to focus on, and I kept looking at his wife.

I recognized that look. That, “I’m so frightened, I don’t know what to do or say.” look. That, “Omg, is this really happening?” look. That, “Omg, I hope he *will* be okay, eventually.”

She knew. I could tell she knew his injuries were more than just the grip of his left hand. I offered them both healing wishes, didn’t ask too many questions, allowed them to tell me what they felt they wanted to tell me, then fled to my house and sobbed.

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In case you are new here, my beloved husband suffered a series of strokes before the doctors discovered the “untreatable, super aggressive cancer that had a +1 gene mutation” which led to his death in December 2016, (and, yes, his day of fatal diagnosis still haunts me today), but his symptoms/injuries from the strokes were not stereotypical as was the case in my neighbor’s experience.

Plus, my neighbors have insurance, he can still drive, and there’s no threat of him ever having a stroke again. Totally different scenario from my husband’s, but when I heard “stroke”, I freaked inside just as I do when I hear about someone’s cancer…which I did the week before from another neighbor!

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And then, the last few days, I realized what might be draining my motivation in getting these videos done: it’s August! With the 14th of every month marking my beloved’s passing, it’s rough but August is even rougher for me and my son.

You see, it’s not only my son’s birthday month but also my birthday month. We now only have each other to acknowledge and express our gratitude that we were born. The one person who loved/loves both of us unconditionally and passionately, is no longer physically present to wish us a “Happy Birthday!”, give us a hug and a kiss, and tell us how much he loves us. Hank’s physical absence, especially during special events, is palpable.

That’s why I think this month has been completely unproductive for me as far as the videos are concerned. And, probably why I’ve been struggling to write this post! I’ve been trying to figure out my total lack of motivation to do them.

Why am I struggling so?

So, I’m going to take the rest of August off from producing these videos. I had hoped to go back to my BlogTalkRadio radio show for the month of August but I can’t even bring myself to do that.

Healing is needed…and planning, while I continue searching for and applying for traditional jobs, locally and remotely.

If you get nothing else from this post, please realize that grieving is something no one “gets over”. It’s something you carry with you for the rest of your life; it simply evolves and you learn how to carry it (some days better than others).

So, be kind to those you know who are grieving even if it’s been years since their loss. And, if that person is you, be sure to practice self-care when things like this happen. Be kind to yourself, let go of some things you feel you *should* do but really don’t have to, and let yourself cry remembering that your tears are an expression of love.

I’ll let you know in September what my next step will be, and if I’m able to serve you as I had hoped to…connecting you to your loved ones on the Other Side and teaching you to recognize the signs they’re sending you, yourself.

Thank you for understanding. I’m sending you lots of love and light,

~Lisa

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Messages From The Other Side #17 – July 21, 2019

Hello, everyone!

For this week, I’m pulling again from Louise Hay’s Power Thought Card deck. I love the artwork so much!

The chosen card, “My life works beautifully.” reminds us that when things don’t seem to be working out, they actually are but, I admit, it can be difficult to believe.

Once again, remember to use that “what if” if you’re having trouble with your affirmations. Or, “why is…” preface to the statement can be helpful too. Both shift the energy from a doubtful frequency to a more positive frequency. Thanks for watching!

Love and light,

~Lisa

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Messages From The Other Side #14 – June 23, 2019

Hello, everyone!

Today, I talk to you about a variety of signs from the Universe, from Spirit which I received to validate the message for us for this week about change and how to deal with change. One of those signs was from a family of crows!

Whether you like change or hate it, we all go through changes in every aspect of life. How we deal with those changes can make them more difficult to bear, but, if we use the right tools, we can make it easier for ourselves to accept and adapt to those changes in a more positive way. I’ll give you a few tools/exercises to help!

I’m also using Abby Wynne’s book, The Book of Healing Affirmations along with a couple of afformations from Noah St. John, and some affirmative questions inspired by Marie Manuchehri (energy intuitive & former oncology nurse).

I’m always happy to share the names of positive leaders. So, don’t be afraid to do your own due diligence with people I mention. They’ve helped me in some way and I share their perspectives with you so you can see if they’ll work for you too.

If I’ve linked to them, it means I’ve personally worked with them and can vouch for them. If not, it simply means I haven’t personally worked with them but I’ve used their books, meditations, wisdom for myself and found it useful.

As always, I hope you find this video helpful, and if you have, please consider showing your support by buying me a cup of coffee. (Ok, I don’t drink coffee, so I changed it to buying me a bag of chocolate chips which I have a spoonful of every morning with my oatmeal.) ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you!

Sending you lots of love and light,

~Lisa

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Messages From The Other Side #13 – June 16, 2019

Hello, everyone!

As I mention in the video, I had a bit of a snafu with last week’s video, and since it was a little bit different, I’m taking that as a sign to let it go.

This week, I pulled a card from John Holland’s The Psychic Tarot Oracle Deck, and as I shuffled and asked Spirit for a message for the week, I heard very clearly: Stay Strong.

The card I pulled mentioned that too! Don’t you love synchronicities?

The card? Transformation. You do need strength when you’re transforming your Self, your life, don’t you?

As always, I hope you find this video helpful.

Love and light,

~Lisa

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What is My Purpose?

Hello everyone!

You know, I’ve thought a lot about this question and the following post I wrote in 2013 entitled, What is The Purpose of Life?, these last 2-1/2 years, for so many reasons. I think I come back to it again and again because it offers me hope that through the fear and darkness we’re all living in these days, I know, deep in my heart, that lightness will prevail. And, when it does, won’t it be glorious?

Last August, I re-read my post, What is The Purpose of Life? through the eyes of a widow and I found some comfort in my own words.

Excerpt:

“There is so much wisdom to be gained from a negative experience but it can take some time for the wisdom to be recognized. Healing needs to take place before we can recognize it sometimes. Give yourself time to heal.”

Allowing myself the time to heal. That was the message that stood out for me then. Ten months later, I continue to push myself forward trying to rebuild my life, and “re-purpose” my life.

I still haven’t healed enough to realize why Hank left this physical world, and why now? But I know I’m farther along in my journey than 10 months ago, learning, growing, evolving into…this person who survived tragic loss and is still here. The wisdom will come, I’m sure, in time. And that brings me comfort.

For those of you who have ever asked this question or are trying to find your purpose, I hope you discover your own message, and perhaps some comfort, in the post as well.

It starts:

“Two weeks ago, Tony from NY asked: What is the purpose of life? Why are we here? I could also hear his concern about all the negative things that you see and read about and what kind of purpose those have, if any. I know heโ€™s not alone, I know most, if not all of us, have these same questions and concerns throughout our lifetime so I wanted to expand upon my answer. Tony, I hope youโ€™re listening.”

Continue reading: What is The Purpose of Life?

Love and light,

~Lisa

P.S. Tony was a caller to my radio show, Messages From The Other Side, and we had a wonderful conversation about his question, only to find out afterwards that the show hadn’t recorded! It was the only episode in more than three years of my show that didn’t record. Hmmm…

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Messages From The Other Side #11 – May 27, 2019

Friendly reminder: If you like this video, please don’t forget to give me a thumbs-up on the YouTube page. Thank you! (I forgot to ask in the video – I’m still learning!) ๐Ÿ™‚

Today, I pulled a card from Louise Hay’s Power Thought Cards deck again for this week. They’re too beautiful to ignore!

If you’re trying to shift from a mindset of lack to one of plenty, this video is for you. The supporting message is about learning to receive. Enjoy!

Bonus: I also have a message from Spirit (a couple, actually) who might belong to one of my viewers. Is it your relative who is coming through?

Love and light,

~Lisa

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Messages From The Other Side #9 – May 12, 2019

I’m using both Abby Wynne’s The Book of Healing Affirmations & Louise Hay‘s Power Thought Cards for this week! Once again, they support each other’s message beautifully.

This is what I was trying to say in the video: As you take care of yourself, you’ll want to take care of your home and, as you take care of your home, you’ll want to take care of yourself. ๐Ÿ˜€

Plus, I share my gratitude with you for taking the time to watch these videos. I so appreciate your support as I rebuild my life after loss.

Love and light,

~Lisa

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