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Have You Been Resisting Your Intuitive Guidance? I Have! That Changes Today.

Coral azaleas in bloom in November!

Coral azaleas in bloom in November!

Hello? Have I grabbed your attention?

You know that intuitive gut feeling that it’s time to do something but, for whatever reason, you don’t? Yup, we’re talking about that. For me, though, I feel it more in my heart than my gut and this time, it took me a couple of years to get to this point! Change can be difficult, can’t it?

I’ve been resisting what my intuition has been telling me for a couple of years now and I give up. Today is the day. I’m surrendering to its guidance and no longer resisting.

You see, for the past 8-10 years (I honestly can’t remember how long it’s been!), I’ve belonged to a writers weekly chat room. I learned an awful lot from the moderator and a few of the people in the chat room early on but have stayed for the social aspect of the group as well as to help others with their journeys, both professionally and personally. It’s the coach in me. 🙂

What’s changed? I have! I feel like I’ve learned as much as I can (a sure sign for me to move on) from the regular members, have encouraged and coached as much as I can and, most importantly, I no longer like who I become when I’m there.

Publicly, I encourage, offer guidance and coaching (even after hours) but there are times when my petty and intolerant side comes out privately. I don’t like myself then. I’m a very tolerant person. I accept people’s belief systems if they differ from mine (it’s what makes life interesting!), I don’t expect people to know everything (I certainly don’t and will continue to learn throughout my lifetime), and I realize that everyone is on their own life journey, going through their own versions of Hell and growth (or stagnancy).

But recently, I find that I’m growing more and more impatient with a few of the members, intolerant of someone’s lack of attention and common courtesy, and I’ve become snarky publicly. Not a good sign. Yes, it’s a part of me, I admit it, like it’s a part of everyone but I don’t like feeling or *being* that way towards people in this chat room. It lowers my vibration and gets me nowhere but frustrated, with myself and the people involved.

Fear and Isolation

As a person who works from home, my social life is non-existent. Our son is in college and my husband’s work doesn’t give itself to socializing after work. This chat room has offered me a connection with, at the time, like-minded people and the thought of letting go of that connection has been fearful. However, this chat room is no longer bringing out the best in me and it’s starting to show publicly. And, that’s not good. Funny thing is, this pettiness and intolerance doesn’t come out any other time in my life!! So, if that’s not a sure sign it’s time to move on, I don’t know what is!

Why has it taken so long?

Interestingly enough, I have been following my intuition about this situation for a while now but not following it to its fullest direction. My intuition has been telling me it’s time to leave but I haven’t because I fear I won’t have another place to go to connect with people.

I have been looking for another group for more than two years now, to no avail. So, I’ve acknowledged and known it’s time to move on but I haven’t let go! The fear of isolating myself further has prevented me from doing so. I wanted to have a new place to go to before letting go of this chat room.

Today, I’m finally embracing my intuition’s entire message: that of letting go in order to move on without having a place to move on toward.

I admit, when the days come every week for me to sign in and participate, it will be difficult for me not to do so but I am putting my trust in the Universe that something new and better for me will become available.

By following my intuition’s push to let go of this chat room, this social connection, I am clearing the space for another connection, an even better one to present itself to me over the next few days, weeks or months. (I really hope it doesn’t take months, though!)

Sometimes you just have to take the risk, let go of the rope, and fall into the unknown. For me, today is the day to do so.


How about you? Have you ever resisted intuitive guidance only to follow it later,  and what helped you make the decision to do so? I’d love to hear about it!


Special note: To those from the chat room that may read this, I thank you for so many years of questioning, wisdom, experience, fun and adventurous chats and I wish you all the best in your endeavors. I hope I helped you on your journeys in some small way.

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Do They Miss Us? Do They See Our Pain? Do They See Us Struggle?

My caller today brought up several great questions when my time was already up for my BlogTalkRadio episode. My show is only 30 minutes long, (at this point in time I can’t afford to buy more air-time), and the platform shuts me down after 10 minutes past my allotted time. As a result, I can’t cover everything I’d like to as I do during a private 60-minute mediumship reading.

I would have loved to further clarify and discuss Joy’s questions about life on the Other Side. So, I’ll attempt to do so here keeping in mind I’m going by what she asked. I hope I didn’t misunderstand her questions and that these answers prove helpful.

Love never dies.

Joy asked if her loved one was aware of how much she missed him, of how much she hurts, and “does he miss me?” “Does he care that I’m in so much pain?”

These are all wonderful questions and I attempted to explain as best as I could within a couple of minutes and being fully aware that the caller was about to be disconnected. I feel I couldn’t address them as well as I’d like to and like I usually do during a scheduled mediumship reading.


First and foremost, my experience and studies have taught me that when our loved ones cross over, they go through an orientation process themselves, getting used to the form of energy they now are compared to the human form they were while they were in our lives. Some take longer than others to adjust, especially if it was a tragic or confusing ending on this side.

I also believe that we really are Spirit having a human experience rather than humans having occasional spiritual experiences. I don’t think we can truly comprehend this, however, unless we’ve either had a huge spiritual experience like an NDE (Near-Death Experience) or another out-of-body experience where we are given a glimpse of who we truly are.

I, myself, have never experienced such so I can only imagine that level of awareness. By all accounts from people I trust and respect, it is truly an incredible and enlightening experience and it is sometimes difficult to come back to our human-ness afterwards. But the message (one of them) is crystal clear: We are love and we are loved. Every single one of us. 🙂


So, Joy, to answer your question: Does he miss me?

No, because he’s not gone, he’s with you right now, by your side. He sees everything that is happening – that’s why he mentioned the red shirt & necklace you were wearing when we spoke & that you were sitting on the bed. That’s why he had me say, “He sees you.” There was meaning in that phrase because he knew you had a question about that, even though I didn’t know this until the end of our conversation. He realized the importance of it.

Missing someone, to us, means we are separated from them. As humans, when our loved ones pass away, there is a separation and it’s very painful. Our loved ones on the Other Side, however, realize there is no separation.

They are still present in our lives but we can’t see them with our eyes or touch them with our hands anymore. That’s why it’s so difficult for us. We grieve the physical presence of our loved ones because we’re human! We live our lives in a very tactile manner and when someone is absent from our world, it’s very noticeable and it hurts. We miss them.


Does he see what I’m doing, how much I’m suffering?

Yes, Joy, he sees what you are doing, who you are visiting, how you miss him and can feel your heartache. That is why he sends you signs. It’s his way of saying, “I’m here. I love you. I know what you’re going through.”


Does he care?

Yes! I can state that with certainty. When we switch forms, we don’t forget our love for each other. Our view expands with the realization that there is life after human death, with the realization that Spirit lives on. And we carry the love we have for each other’s souls with us!

From my experience, it seems once we are on the Other Side, we are able to recognize and truly feel the depth of our love, especially if we had a difficult time admitting or expressing it in this lifetime. If we were lucky enough to fully embrace it and experience it here on Earth, it is still with us on the Other Side.


How do you know he cares?

Because you sense him, feel him when you honor his physical presence in your life by still doing the things you loved doing with him, seeing the people you two would see if he was there. Because every time you think of him, that’s you sensing his presence and his love for you. It will become clearer and stronger as you heal.

You also know he cares because he came through in a mediumship reading with a lot of unique validations for you! The line of trees, the outdoors (the nature preserve you spoke about), the pond, among other things.


Now, the reason I mentioned to Joy there was a possibility of still holding onto some anger from a loved one passing – it’s not so much a hateful anger, that’s not what I meant. It’s a subtle anger which the question: Does he even care if I’m in pain? holds within it which is perfectly normal to experience.

It goes along with the hurt and the pain of losing a loved one too soon, and is usually followed by the question: How could he leave me? It’s more of a hurt, so maybe anger wasn’t the best word I could’ve used. Forgive me. And also remember that behind anger, even a hint of anger, is hurt.

I still say writing a letter to your loved one who has crossed over is very therapeutic. Write out your pain, your hurt, your grief, your love, and ask all the questions you want to ask him. If you’d like to take it a step further, James Van Praagh suggests after writing this letter, to put it away for two weeks.

After two weeks, sit down and write a letter from your loved one to you and you’ll be surprised with the information and messages that come through!


I always wish I had more time for the mini-mediumship readings which I offer on my radio show because of beautiful questions like these. And, if I’ve paraphrased incorrectly or misinterpreted the questions (due to lack of time), my apologies to Joy. However, these particular questions still matter!

Most of the time, during a private reading, all of these questions are answered by the end of the hour without the client even asking them. It’s just impossible for me to do this during a 15 or even 20-minute mini-reading. I can only give you a snippet of what a mediumship reading is like with as many validations and/or messages that your loved ones want to impart to me.

I thank Joy for the questions and hope this post clarifies or explains things a little further for her and to all who read it. There’s so much to learn and know about the Other Side and Spirit, and my beliefs have evolved over the years because of my curiosity, my questions, my studies, and my experiences. Never be afraid to ask questions and find the right answers for you!

One message or belief that has always been a truth for me has never changed, and it’s this: love and Spirit never die. ♥

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Friendly Weekly Reminder!

Hello everyone!

Yes, I’m having a live Messages From The Other Side BlogTalkRadio show today, March 15, 2014 at 3:30pm EST. See details below and I look forward to connecting you with your loved ones!


Air date: March 15, 2014

Description: Do you want everything in your life to happen, to change right now? Listen in as Lisa reflects on last week’s caller and the brainstorming and intuitive life coaching it triggered for Lisa about wanting everything in your life to happen NOW. Can it be done? Should it be done that way? Is there a price to pay? Lisa will also be giving mini-readings to 1 or 2 callers.

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Your Friendly Weekly Reminder of Live Show!

Hello all!

Yes, there will be a live Messages From The Other Side show today, March 1, 2014 at 3:30pm EST on BlogTalkRadio.

I wasn’t sure I was going to be able to do a show today due to allergies – (fuzzy head syndrome) but I decided this gave me the perfect opportunity to address a question I’ve been asked before.

So, if you have any questions or are concerned that you aren’t receiving messages from your loved ones, please call in. I’d love to chat with you and if my allergies abate and Spirit chooses to connect with me, I’ll give you a free mini-reading. 🙂


Air date: March 1, 2014

Description: Have you ever wondered why mediums (or you) can’t or don’t seem to receive messages sometimes? There are a variety of reasons! Tune in as Lisa explains. And, if you’re having trouble seeing signs from your loved ones who have crossed over, please call in with your questions. Call-in number is: (646) 929-0732.

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Reminder: Live Show Today!

Hello everyone! 🙂

There will be a live Messages From The Other Side radio show on BlogTalkRadio today, January 18, 2014 at 3:30pm EST. Please listen in and/or call-in to chat with me. I’d love to hear from you.

Air date: January 18, 2014

Description: If you have ever felt guilty for not being there when a loved one passed away, please listen in as Lisa reassures you that there is nothing to feel guilty about. Listen in to find out why. Lisa will also take calls and give readings.

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Reminder: Live Show Today!

Hello everyone! Yes, today I will be having a live Messages From The Other Side BlogTalkRadio show at 3:30pm EST.

Show’s Information

Air date: December 21, 2013

Description: Lisa will briefly talk about noticing the subtle signs you may receive during the holiday season letting you know your loved ones are around you. Lisa will then give mini-readings to callers. Merry Christmas!!


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Letting Go of Expectations

On today’s BlogTalkRadio show, I had an insightful call. I think there were some valuable lessons in the conversation for everyone. A woman called from Maryland and I sensed her parents coming through. She then asked if they had any advice about her career. I felt guided to talk to her, to connect with her to find out where she was in the job hunting process, especially since I’m a former job coach!

I also wanted to chat with her, as I do with other callers, to strengthen the connection of energies between her and her parents, however, she did not want to participate.

Note: If you won’t allow me to tap into your energy by simple conversation, that makes it very difficult for me to then connect with your loved ones on the Other Side. I like to have as strong of a connection as possible to be able to receive the messages as clearly as possible–be they words, images, mannerisms, or guidance.

A Short Digression

When I was a personnel recruiter as well as life/job coach, I felt guided to ask certain questions to get a better feel for where the person was in their job search or about the life issue. I needed to connect with their energy over the phone to better understand what problems they felt they were having.

I could hear the exasperation in their voices or the joy in their voices, or their worry as they shared their stories with me. This helped guide the conversation and led me to offering just the right tools, resources, and advice they needed for the next step.

In this today’s case, I felt that the caller’s parents came in to let her know they were here, and then they stepped aside for me to chat with her.

Unfortunately, the woman curtly told me she didn’t call to be coached thereby putting up a block for me to connect with her. After the show, I thought, “Well, yes, actually, she did call for career advice.” She initially said she wanted advice from her parents about her career.


So I Pose This Question

Did the caller ever think that perhaps her parents guided her to call me to have a brief discussion of her job search and offer her free professional advice? I mean, what are the chances of talking to a medium who was formerly a job coach when you have a question about your career?

Unfortunately, the caller dismissed my expertise because she wanted to hear from her father or both her parents without realizing that the message they possibly sent was for her to call me so I could help her! Think about that for a minute.


It’s like that old adage (and I might get the modes of transportation incorrect but you’ll get the gist), of the man who is drowning and asks God to save him so God sends him a log to grab hold of and the man pushes it away.

Then God sends someone in a boat and the man waves the boat on, telling them “God will save me.” And finally God sends a helicopter and the man waves them off as well.

Obviously, the man drowns and upon going to Heaven, he asks God, “Why didn’t you save me?” And God said, “Well, I sent you a log, I sent you a boat, I sent you a helicopter and you rejected them all. What else was I supposed to do?”


A More Modern Example

It’s like getting a phone call from someone and you don’t answer it because you want them to send an e-mail. The message is still coming through but you’ve blocked or rejected it because it’s not coming in the form you want it to or expect it to. So, you end up not hearing the message and not receiving the help you asked for.

Valuable Lessons

Lesson #1: Let go of expectations. When you go for a reading, or even if you’re trying to connect with your own Inner Guide, Higher Self or loved ones, you need to be open to whatever information you receive and how you receive it. It may not always be what you want or expect, but it will be what you need. And it won’t always be delivered exactly how you want it to be delivered either, so be open to alternative ways of communication.

Lesson #2: Participate. Don’t rebuff what seems like a moment or two of trivial conversation. A connection needs to be made to move into a deeper connection or conversation with anyone you speak to. While it may seem silly to you to talk about the weather with someone you want specific information from, it’s not only a societal nicety but a necessary step to establish a rapport and a connection of energy between two people.

This can also apply to anyone you meet, not just a psychic or medium. Some call it “breaking the ice”. It’s really about attempting to connect with that other person so you both can feel a little more at ease as you delve into the real reason you are meeting.

Alternative Possibilities

Now, with all this said, her lack of participation could very well have been due to her calling from work and she couldn’t speak freely. If so, then I was correct in sensing a block from her. I’ve had many conversations over the years as a personnel recruiter then as a life/job coach to know that many times, this is exactly the case.

The person is very short with me on our first call but then when we speak later when she is at home, away from work, her energy completely changes and we have a great, friendly, productive conversation.


I want to thank today’s caller for providing these lessons so that everyone can learn from the call. Even if the reason she didn’t want to speak freely was because she was at work, the lessons are still valid.

Generally speaking, I think if the caller can let go of her expectations of how she thinks her life should go, as her father suggests, she’ll be open to more opportunities and experiences that will prove beneficial to her and probably allow her to be more open to signs from her loved ones and her inner self as well. This goes for any area in her life, career-wise or personally.


And, This is a Great Lesson For All of Us…

…because we all have expectations of some sort surrounding some aspect of our lives, don’t we? Even if it’s an expectation of a conversation and not something as big as a life path, say. I know I had expectations of where I’d be in my life by this time and, sometimes I have trouble letting go of them which can keep me from moving on to something even better than I expected.

Life doesn’t always work exactly how we plan or hope for it to work. We don’t always get the e-mail we want but we shouldn’t not answer the phone when it rings. We might miss a great message, opportunity, or experience by rejecting the call while waiting for the e-mail.

We must remember to be flexible and open to how life unfolds  so we can see or hear the guidance we seek.

I’d love to hear about your experiences with having expectations about a call, situation, meeting, event. Did you adapt or hold tight to those expectations? What were the results?

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