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Weekly Video News and Self-Care While Grieving

Hello, all!

My apologies for not notifying you sooner. I’ve been struggling to write this post for a few weeks now. Rewriting, editing, rewriting it several times.

But, I can’t lie to you. Quite frankly, grief is exhausting; worry and life itself is exhausting for me right now…and has been for more than 2 years and 8 months.

As you know, I have produced four months of weekly videos as an experiment, and to learn about YouTube and to push myself to do something “less-than-perfect” in order to move forward in my life. It was also a promotional tool in the hopes of attracting paying clients for both my mediumship and job/life coaching services. Sadly, it hasn’t attracted one paying client.

Focus on the beauty.

Three+ Sundays ago, I had something urgent I needed to work on for both my son and myself, so I couldn’t do a video, and the next weekend? Well, with all the tragedies which are happening in the U.S., I just couldn’t pretend to be in a positive mood when I’ve been so upset.

I know, maybe now *is* the time to do a positive video when we need it the most but, my heart simply isn’t in it, and I’ve learned during this journey with grief, that I should pay attention to that.

Yes, I’ve pushed myself in doing many other things that needed to be done that I didn’t want to do, but this is different.

To complicate matters, my PTSD was triggered when I recently went to my neighbors to give them some things for their grandkids (I’m decluttering) and found out her husband had just suffered a stroke the day before. Or maybe it was two days?

My anxieties kicked in immediately so I’m not sure what I heard. He was standing at the door talking to me and I noticed a lot of subtle injuries, not just the use of his hand which he seemed to focus on, and I kept looking at his wife.

I recognized that look. That, “I’m so frightened, I don’t know what to do or say.” look. That, “Omg, is this really happening?” look. That, “Omg, I hope he *will* be okay, eventually.”

She knew. I could tell she knew his injuries were more than just the grip of his left hand. I offered them both healing wishes, didn’t ask too many questions, allowed them to tell me what they felt they wanted to tell me, then fled to my house and sobbed.

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In case you are new here, my beloved husband suffered a series of strokes before the doctors discovered the “untreatable, super aggressive cancer that had a +1 gene mutation” which led to his death in December 2016, (and, yes, his day of fatal diagnosis still haunts me today), but his symptoms/injuries from the strokes were not stereotypical as was the case in my neighbor’s experience.

Plus, my neighbors have insurance, he can still drive, and there’s no threat of him ever having a stroke again. Totally different scenario from my husband’s, but when I heard “stroke”, I freaked inside just as I do when I hear about someone’s cancer…which I did the week before from another neighbor!

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And then, the last few days, I realized what might be draining my motivation in getting these videos done: it’s August! With the 14th of every month marking my beloved’s passing, it’s rough but August is even rougher for me and my son.

You see, it’s not only my son’s birthday month but also my birthday month. We now only have each other to acknowledge and express our gratitude that we were born. The one person who loved/loves both of us unconditionally and passionately, is no longer physically present to wish us a “Happy Birthday!”, give us a hug and a kiss, and tell us how much he loves us. Hank’s physical absence, especially during special events, is palpable.

That’s why I think this month has been completely unproductive for me as far as the videos are concerned. And, probably why I’ve been struggling to write this post! I’ve been trying to figure out my total lack of motivation to do them.

Why am I struggling so?

So, I’m going to take the rest of August off from producing these videos. I had hoped to go back to my BlogTalkRadio radio show for the month of August but I can’t even bring myself to do that.

Healing is needed…and planning, while I continue searching for and applying for traditional jobs, locally and remotely.

If you get nothing else from this post, please realize that grieving is something no one “gets over”. It’s something you carry with you for the rest of your life; it simply evolves and you learn how to carry it (some days better than others).

So, be kind to those you know who are grieving even if it’s been years since their loss. And, if that person is you, be sure to practice self-care when things like this happen. Be kind to yourself, let go of some things you feel you *should* do but really don’t have to, and let yourself cry remembering that your tears are an expression of love.

I’ll let you know in September what my next step will be, and if I’m able to serve you as I had hoped to…connecting you to your loved ones on the Other Side and teaching you to recognize the signs they’re sending you, yourself.

Thank you for understanding. I’m sending you lots of love and light,

~Lisa

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What is My Purpose?

Hello everyone!

You know, I’ve thought a lot about this question and the following post I wrote in 2013 entitled, What is The Purpose of Life?, these last 2-1/2 years, for so many reasons. I think I come back to it again and again because it offers me hope that through the fear and darkness we’re all living in these days, I know, deep in my heart, that lightness will prevail. And, when it does, won’t it be glorious?

Last August, I re-read my post, What is The Purpose of Life? through the eyes of a widow and I found some comfort in my own words.

Excerpt:

“There is so much wisdom to be gained from a negative experience but it can take some time for the wisdom to be recognized. Healing needs to take place before we can recognize it sometimes. Give yourself time to heal.”

Allowing myself the time to heal. That was the message that stood out for me then. Ten months later, I continue to push myself forward trying to rebuild my life, and “re-purpose” my life.

I still haven’t healed enough to realize why Hank left this physical world, and why now? But I know I’m farther along in my journey than 10 months ago, learning, growing, evolving into…this person who survived tragic loss and is still here. The wisdom will come, I’m sure, in time. And that brings me comfort.

For those of you who have ever asked this question or are trying to find your purpose, I hope you discover your own message, and perhaps some comfort, in the post as well.

It starts:

“Two weeks ago, Tony from NY asked: What is the purpose of life? Why are we here? I could also hear his concern about all the negative things that you see and read about and what kind of purpose those have, if any. I know he’s not alone, I know most, if not all of us, have these same questions and concerns throughout our lifetime so I wanted to expand upon my answer. Tony, I hope you’re listening.”

Continue reading: What is The Purpose of Life?

Love and light,

~Lisa

P.S. Tony was a caller to my radio show, Messages From The Other Side, and we had a wonderful conversation about his question, only to find out afterwards that the show hadn’t recorded! It was the only episode in more than three years of my show that didn’t record. Hmmm…

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Messages From The Other Side #8 – May 5, 2019

This week, I used Lucy Cavendish’s The Oracle Tarot deck and pulled two cards for us. Of course, the second card supported the first card beautifully!

Ahh, synchronicity…and the wisdom of the Divine. 😉

Love and light,

~Lisa

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Special News About My Radio Show!

(To listen to the audio version of this post, PLEASE CLICK HERE.)

Hello everyone!

As you may know, if you follow me on Twitter, I had a bit of a panic this past week and had to take a breather for a couple of days to figure out a new game-plan for creating/publishing podcasts and blog posts.

(Interesting to note that my panic came the night before something HUGE happened in the U.S. & I wonder if I was actually picking up someone else’s panic? That sort of thing has happened to me before – picking up on the energy of world events before finding out about them.)

As you also may know, I am in dire financial straits since my husband passed away in December 2016. Therefore, it is critical I spend my time on projects which have a better chance of bringing in an income.

The brain fog that comes with grieving, especially in the early months/year has lifted, for the most part, but I still can’t multi-task as easily as I, once, could (yet), so I get easily overwhelmed. I know those of you who are grieving understand this challenge.

If all goes well with the basics I’m offering via Patreon, it will free up my worry to be able to do even more to help you (and me!) heal, and improve your intuition in order to create a more positive life moving forward.

Now, when I re-started my BlogTalkRadio show, Messages From The Other Side in October 2018, I mentioned I would produce/write/host the show for a month or two to see how it works out then decide whether or not to continue.

The major change is this:

*I have come to the decision to stop doing my weekly public podcasts, for now.I will, however, create monthly, special-invite, Patron-Only podcasts!

As I mentioned above, I must focus my energy on projects and content which have a better chance to bring in an income, and my public, live radio shows have never brought me paying clients.

Examples: I had my job coaching radio show for three years, helped 1000s of people (callers as well as live & archived listeners), create professional resumes, finetune their job search, network, interview, follow-up, get hired, negotiate their salary, (seriously, I wrote more than 30,000+ words–a book for all my episodes!) and all my time, efforts, research, writing, producing, coaching, didn’t bring me onepaying client.

Same thing happened with my mediumship radio show: I wrote/produced/hosted it for three years, teaching how to best connect with your loved ones on the Other Side, what blocks you may have and how to let go of them, etc, and gave away hundreds of mini-readings, and only got 1 paying client ($50, at the time). She was the host of a “supernatural” radio show where she wanted me to guest, so she felt the need to vet me…which is fine, I don’t mind that. She paid me for my services and I appreciated that.

So, I guested on her show. She thought it would be good exposure for me because she had a larger and longer-established audience, and it would, probably, bring in some much-needed paying clients for me. I agreed because I also had read that this was a good way to promote yourself. Well, I ended up providing TWO HOURS worth of free mini-readings for her callers. Result?  Appreciative callers but not ONE paying client in the days, weeks or months afterwards.

And, please, don’t get me wrong. I am always happy to help those grieving by connecting them to their loved ones but I need to pay my mortgage and eat! So, it seems that, for whatever reason, after a decade’s worth of providing my services for free (both my job coaching as well as my mediumship services), these sorts of promotions simply don’t work for me. They do not result in paying clients.

So, that must go.

*What I will do, though, is have a private, monthly podcast for Patrons only ($5/month Tier) where you will be able to call in (I’ll have a chat room open as well), and I’ll pick 1 or 2 callers to chat with: you can ask questions, share a story, and/or have a free mini-reading!

I need to focus my limited energy (due to grief) on my Patrons.

*I will continue to upload ad-free archived podcasts from my Messages FromThe Other Side radio show from 2013-2016 weekly! In the meantime, I will find a place to store these 100+ episodes for easier reference and access for my Patrons.

*I will also put out a weekly blog post (newsletter) for Patrons-only with helpful insights and guidance for you to connect with your loved ones on the Other Side, improve your own intuition, and help support you in your grieving process.

*Bonus (if I’m not overwhelmed because I really want to do this): I want to pull a motivational, inspirational, insightful card (either tarot or positive affirmations) a few times a week, and if it’s not too overwhelming for me, maybe have it daily. I think we can all use a beautiful piece of artwork + some positive energy these days on a daily basis. 🙂

I haven’t decided whether or not it’ll be a photo or a quick video. I think my batteries are out on my camera, so it may have to be a short video. I use these cards for myself and they are always insightful and bring beauty into my life, so I hope they will do the same for you. I’m being encouraged to do this, so we’ll see what messages come through for all of us!

I believe I’ll be able to do all of the above on a consistent basis. We’ll see how it goes for December (which is a very rough month for me as Hank passed away this month 2 years ago, so I ask for your patience, and thank you in advance. ❤

At the beginning of the year, we’ll see what worked and what didn’t, if I could keep up with everything, and we’ll go from there. I’d love for this to work out for all of us, supporting you through your grief, and supporting you on your own unique spiritual journey in creating a positive, joy-filled life.

I wish you peace, love and light during this holiday season.

~Lisa

 
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IMPORTANT Update on My Twitter Username!

Hello everyone! MY TWITTER USERNAME IS: @IntuitiveLB.

UPDATE: 10/15/2018 – 8:38pm, I believe it is finally fixed. lol If there is a flaw in your system, I will find it, guaranteed. I’ve notified Gravatar of the visual bug which didn’t allow me to see where to change this information. It is hidden behind some text on the page for me. Still is, but I figured out how to deal with it and make the changes. Thank you for your patience! 🙂

I am, however, still awaiting to see if Twitter is supposed to be forwarding my old Username queries to my new Username Twitter page (it’s the same account!) that I’ve had for almost 10 years. lol If they ARE supposed to be doing so, they need to know it’s not working properly. Wish me luck!

UPDATE: 10/15/2018 – Nope, it’s not fixed. For some reason, I can’t get Gravatar’s system to change the link! Have written them for help.

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I am so sorry. I just now realized that the Twitter link on my Gravatar takes you to a “suspended account” page. I’ve fixed it so it takes you to my Twitter page which has been active for almost 10 years. 🙂

Please know, I have never been suspended on Twitter! I simply changed my Username, but, for some reason, Twitter does not forward those who use my OLD username to my page!

I’ve asked Twitter Support for an explanation since I noticed this occurrence a few months ago (missed the Gravatar link, though), and I’ve received absolutely no help or explanation from them at all.

But, unfortunately, this might explain why some people may have been put off by me if they clicked my Gravatar and got a “suspended account” page on Twitter. 😦

Honestly, Twitter needs to fix this! I wonder how many other people have changed their username but, maybe, forgot to update a link somewhere or someone typed in their old Username and didn’t know it was changed, only to be told the account (which STILL exists) is supposedly suspended. And, it’s not.

My apologies for the mix-up. I hope I now have all my Twitter links corrected since Twitter doesn’t forward people like I thought they would. Makes no sense why they don’t have that programmed into their system.

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Being Patient and Asking For Guidance

A quick reminder! Today is the last day for people to subscribe to my newsletter in order to be eligible for a chance to win a free 20-minute mediumship! So if you have a friend or family member who is curious or interested, please have them sign up!

I’ll be randomly choosing a winner (writing the names on paper & drawing them from a bowl) tomorrow, October 1, 2018.

Please know that whomever is chosen, needs it the most right then, at that moment. I’ll contact the winner via email. 🙂

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Re-reading some of my old posts over the last month, I’ve realized how much my voice has changed. How much my perspective has shifted since experiencing the loss of my beloved. Grief permeates every fiber of your being and so, your life. I now have an even greater depth of understanding and compassion towards those who have suffered losses, especially that of a spouse or partner.

And, I, more clearly, see the reasons behind the blocks we set up while grieving that make it difficult to recognize signs from our loved ones on the Other Side…for a time.

But, take heart, as I am. I know we’ll get to a place eventually, where we can smile when we think about and talk about our loved ones, more often than cry. Even now, sorrow can be interspersed with moments of laughter recalling something funny our loved ones used to say or did. Grasp onto those moments, even if tears follow. In time, I know those moments will be able to be followed by an endearing smile rather than tears of sorrow.

Some have already reached that place.

I’m not quite there yet and I don’t know when I will be…and that’s okay. If you’re not there yet, that’s okay too. Just know, you will get there…in your own time.

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As a medium, I know our loved ones’ Spirit lives on. How can I not? They let me know! I hear and sense them in a variety of ways. I can’t deny that.

What is wonderful is that I feel the love they have for you. I feel their support and encouragement towards you, guiding you to be the best you can be in whatever way they possibly can.

So, don’t be afraid to ask for their guidance.

If one of your loved ones was good at business, ask them for guidance about a business decision you’re considering. If one of your loved ones gave great relationship advice, ask them to help you with a current relationship or to help bring in a new, more positive relationship.

Be open to communicating with them however you feel comfortable, and be open to hearing from them in, perhaps, unexpected ways.

Sending lots of love and light to you,

~Lisa

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Drawing to be held tomorrow, October 1, 2018!

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A Reminder to Let Go of Our Expectations

Once again, the Universe seems to be sending me messages…or is that Hank? I was immediately drawn to this post from October 2013. It’s about letting go of our expectations of HOW messages or opportunities come to us, and the art of connecting with people (and why it’s so important for people like me…mediums).

Briefly, when we have the how we want to hear from our loved one: a touch on the shoulder, hear his/her voice audibly, have a visit in our dreams, feel their presence, set in our minds, we can miss the ways they ARE communicating with us.

Remember, their strength may be sending you their name all the time but if you have it in your head that you want to actually SEE a vision of them, you’ll ignore the instances of seeing or hearing their name everywhere. You’ll see those as coincidences rather than signs and simply dismiss them.

As you know, I’ve had trouble connecting with my beloved on the Other Side. Then I catch myself thinking, but have I really? I want to sense Hank near me, I want to FEEL his presence. And because of that, have I been dismissing the signs he IS sending me?

Like going for a walk several months ago, crying and talking to him (yeah, my neighbors probably think I’m crazy but I don’t care plus a lot of them know I’m a recent widow anyway), and pleading for him to help us financially, we desperately needed money for food.

As I began my walk, I had to cross over to the other side of the street because there were neighbors with a dog that I really didn’t want to talk to ahead of me. (Note: I never walk on that side of the street going that way.)

As I sobbed and pleaded to Hank, “We need money NOW!” I looked down and there was a $5 bill amongst the leaves next to the curb!

I looked around for another person who may have dropped it but there was no one. I thanked Hank profusely and asked him (along with all his guides and angels) to keep helping us financially.

know he’s been working overtime helping us survive, so why am I not registering these little acts of assistance as him connecting with me? I mean, I am…but I’m not, you know?

One thing Hank was, was a hard worker and a good provider. Somehow, we’d make enough to squeak by every month. Even when a job fell through, he’d have a call within a day for a side job to make up for it. And because I am, by nature, frugal, I made sure we saved everywhere we could to stretch the money he made as far as it could go. We never had “extra” due to my unfortunate unemployment, but we had enough for bills…just.

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So this week, think back, and pay attention to the little things that worked (and work) out in your life, the happy accidents or the synchronicities. What were your expectations of a call, situation, meeting, event? Did you adapt or hold tight to those expectations and what were the results?

Have you asked your loved one to “show themselves” while ignoring more subtle signs from them? Don’t dismiss the subtle signs! Thank them for the unexpected sign so they know they can use that same sign again and again to let their presence known to you to offer you comfort. Write them down and date them and I bet you’ll see a pattern emerge.

I’m trying to remember to do this myself so I can fully acknowledge Hank’s communications with me, so I’m right there with you!

For another great example of letting go of your expectations on HOW you may get a sign or message or guidance, please click here.

Love and light,

Lisa

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