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A Reminder to Let Go of Our Expectations

Once again, the Universe seems to be sending me messages…or is that Hank? I was immediately drawn to this post from October 2013. It’s about letting go of our expectations of HOW messages or opportunities come to us, and the art of connecting with people (and why it’s so important for people like me…mediums).

Briefly, when we have the how we want to hear from our loved one: a touch on the shoulder, hear his/her voice audibly, have a visit in our dreams, feel their presence, set in our minds, we can miss the ways they ARE communicating with us.

Remember, their strength may be sending you their name all the time but if you have it in your head that you want to actually SEE a vision of them, you’ll ignore the instances of seeing or hearing their name everywhere. You’ll see those as coincidences rather than signs and simply dismiss them.

As you know, I’ve had trouble connecting with my beloved on the Other Side. Then I catch myself thinking, but have I really? I want to sense Hank near me, I want to FEEL his presence. And because of that, have I been dismissing the signs he IS sending me?

Like going for a walk several months ago, crying and talking to him (yeah, my neighbors probably think I’m crazy but I don’t care plus a lot of them know I’m a recent widow anyway), and pleading for him to help us financially, we desperately needed money for food.

As I began my walk, I had to cross over to the other side of the street because there were neighbors with a dog that I really didn’t want to talk to ahead of me. (Note: I never walk on that side of the street going that way.)

As I sobbed and pleaded to Hank, “We need money NOW!” I looked down and there was a $5 bill amongst the leaves next to the curb!

I looked around for another person who may have dropped it but there was no one. I thanked Hank profusely and asked him (along with all his guides and angels) to keep helping us financially.

know he’s been working overtime helping us survive, so why am I not registering these little acts of assistance as him connecting with me? I mean, I am…but I’m not, you know?

One thing Hank was, was a hard worker and a good provider. Somehow, we’d make enough to squeak by every month. Even when a job fell through, he’d have a call within a day for a side job to make up for it. And because I am, by nature, frugal, I made sure we saved everywhere we could to stretch the money he made as far as it could go. We never had “extra” due to my unfortunate unemployment, but we had enough for bills…just.

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So this week, think back, and pay attention to the little things that worked (and work) out in your life, the happy accidents or the synchronicities. What were your expectations of a call, situation, meeting, event? Did you adapt or hold tight to those expectations and what were the results?

Have you asked your loved one to “show themselves” while ignoring more subtle signs from them? Don’t dismiss the subtle signs! Thank them for the unexpected sign so they know they can use that same sign again and again to let their presence known to you to offer you comfort. Write them down and date them and I bet you’ll see a pattern emerge.

I’m trying to remember to do this myself so I can fully acknowledge Hank’s communications with me, so I’m right there with you!

For another great example of letting go of your expectations on HOW you may get a sign or message or guidance, please click here.

Love and light,

Lisa

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News: Online Payment and Scheduling System is Up and Running!

Last year, right before my husband’s health crisis, I had just begun to put together tools for you to pay for mediumship readings and schedule appointments online. It’s taken me a long time to figure out (as you may know, grief muddles your mind) but I, hopefully, have everything properly linked.

Please go to my Contact Me page to start the process. You simply need to click on the link, pay, then schedule your session. You will be asked for two choices of days/times. Also, please know, only your first name is required along with your phone number and email.

I will confirm one of your two choices and we’re all set. It’s quick and easy. I am now taking appointments through March 2018. There are still a few openings for this week still available.

Thank you for your patience while I worked on this process for you. If you know of anyone who has wanted a mediumship reading with me but may have been shy about emailing me to schedule a session, please direct them to my Contact Me page.

Thank you!

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What Do I Get Out Of Doing Mediumship Readings For People? Joyful Connections!

I have been asked this question, or a variation thereof, quite a few times:

Why do this type of work and what’s in it for me? Like everything I’ve ever done in my life, it is to serve, to help others with my experience and knowledge. And…yes, there is more to it.

Aside from knowing I’ve successfully delivered a much-needed message, it’s the beautiful connections I make between loved ones that brings me such joy, especially when I’ve had a week fraught with problems. This June 21, 2014 episode of Messages From The Other Side, is a great example of those beautiful connections.

I get to tap into the love and support your loved ones on the Other Side have for you, and it makes my heart sing.

I love sensing and feeling the love, concern and support from those on the Other Side. I also love hearing and sensing the love and gratitude in my clients’ voices too. When there’s that “Oh! I know who that is!” or “I know what that’s about!” That’s precious to me and I give thanks to Spirit for being clear. I am thankful that I’m hearing or seeing or sensing what is needed for that person at that moment so they can be sure they are not alone, that their loved ones’ spirit lives on.

I also love hearing the relief and yes, sometimes the much-needed release of emotions. To me, that means healing is taking place, and that’s what making these connections is all about: healing.

Recently, I’m noticing more and more that Spirit wants to get right to the messages of support and guidance to my clients. They are anxious for their guidance to be heard but I like to make sure (and I ask Spirit to do so), that I receive and pass on evidential validations first. This way, my client is certain that I’m connecting with their loved one(s) on the Other Side and are more open to receiving the guidance their loved ones are giving.

This interesting transition tells me that our loved ones are rooting for our health and well-being far more than we realize.

For me, it confirms they are watching over us and want us to succeed, and they want to be heard. Our loved ones on the Other Side want to share their wisdom, their love, their support. By connecting with me to pass on messages of love, guidance, and support and feeling that loving connection knowing it will help you (my clients) move forward in positive way…well, it makes my heart sing. I am so happy to be able to share these communications.

I thank you and your loved ones for allowing me to share that connection, and encourage you to realize you can (and most likely already are!) connecting with your loved one(s) directly. Relax into the moments, and be open and aware of life’s synchronicities when you are thinking about them.

As with all moments, sometimes they are light and fleeting (a quick “Hello, I’m here!”) while other times, you may have a deeper knowing/sensing/feeling of their presence (an overwhelming sense of love w/an inner hearing of their voice, perhaps). All of these moments are direct communications from your loved ones. Simply acknowledge them and be joyful.

Love and light, Lisa 🙂

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Do They Miss Us? Do They See Our Pain? Do They See Us Struggle?

My caller today brought up several great questions when my time was already up for my BlogTalkRadio episode. My show is only 30 minutes long, (at this point in time I can’t afford to buy more air-time), and the platform shuts me down after 10 minutes past my allotted time. As a result, I can’t cover everything I’d like to as I do during a private 60-minute mediumship reading.

I would have loved to further clarify and discuss Joy’s questions about life on the Other Side. So, I’ll attempt to do so here keeping in mind I’m going by what she asked. I hope I didn’t misunderstand her questions and that these answers prove helpful.

Love never dies.

Joy asked if her loved one was aware of how much she missed him, of how much she hurts, and “does he miss me?” “Does he care that I’m in so much pain?”

These are all wonderful questions and I attempted to explain as best as I could within a couple of minutes and being fully aware that the caller was about to be disconnected. I feel I couldn’t address them as well as I’d like to and like I usually do during a scheduled mediumship reading.

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First and foremost, my experience and studies have taught me that when our loved ones cross over, they go through an orientation process themselves, getting used to the form of energy they now are compared to the human form they were while they were in our lives. Some take longer than others to adjust, especially if it was a tragic or confusing ending on this side.

I also believe that we really are Spirit having a human experience rather than humans having occasional spiritual experiences. I don’t think we can truly comprehend this, however, unless we’ve either had a huge spiritual experience like an NDE (Near-Death Experience) or another out-of-body experience where we are given a glimpse of who we truly are.

I, myself, have never experienced such so I can only imagine that level of awareness. By all accounts from people I trust and respect, it is truly an incredible and enlightening experience and it is sometimes difficult to come back to our human-ness afterwards. But the message (one of them) is crystal clear: We are love and we are loved. Every single one of us. 🙂

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So, Joy, to answer your question: Does he miss me?

No, because he’s not gone, he’s with you right now, by your side. He sees everything that is happening – that’s why he mentioned the red shirt & necklace you were wearing when we spoke & that you were sitting on the bed. That’s why he had me say, “He sees you.” There was meaning in that phrase because he knew you had a question about that, even though I didn’t know this until the end of our conversation. He realized the importance of it.

Missing someone, to us, means we are separated from them. As humans, when our loved ones pass away, there is a separation and it’s very painful. Our loved ones on the Other Side, however, realize there is no separation.

They are still present in our lives but we can’t see them with our eyes or touch them with our hands anymore. That’s why it’s so difficult for us. We grieve the physical presence of our loved ones because we’re human! We live our lives in a very tactile manner and when someone is absent from our world, it’s very noticeable and it hurts. We miss them.

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Does he see what I’m doing, how much I’m suffering?

Yes, Joy, he sees what you are doing, who you are visiting, how you miss him and can feel your heartache. That is why he sends you signs. It’s his way of saying, “I’m here. I love you. I know what you’re going through.”

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Does he care?

Yes! I can state that with certainty. When we switch forms, we don’t forget our love for each other. Our view expands with the realization that there is life after human death, with the realization that Spirit lives on. And we carry the love we have for each other’s souls with us!

From my experience, it seems once we are on the Other Side, we are able to recognize and truly feel the depth of our love, especially if we had a difficult time admitting or expressing it in this lifetime. If we were lucky enough to fully embrace it and experience it here on Earth, it is still with us on the Other Side.

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How do you know he cares?

Because you sense him, feel him when you honor his physical presence in your life by still doing the things you loved doing with him, seeing the people you two would see if he was there. Because every time you think of him, that’s you sensing his presence and his love for you. It will become clearer and stronger as you heal.

You also know he cares because he came through in a mediumship reading with a lot of unique validations for you! The line of trees, the outdoors (the nature preserve you spoke about), the pond, among other things.

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Now, the reason I mentioned to Joy there was a possibility of still holding onto some anger from a loved one passing – it’s not so much a hateful anger, that’s not what I meant. It’s a subtle anger which the question: Does he even care if I’m in pain? holds within it which is perfectly normal to experience.

It goes along with the hurt and the pain of losing a loved one too soon, and is usually followed by the question: How could he leave me? It’s more of a hurt, so maybe anger wasn’t the best word I could’ve used. Forgive me. And also remember that behind anger, even a hint of anger, is hurt.

I still say writing a letter to your loved one who has crossed over is very therapeutic. Write out your pain, your hurt, your grief, your love, and ask all the questions you want to ask him. If you’d like to take it a step further, James Van Praagh suggests after writing this letter, to put it away for two weeks.

After two weeks, sit down and write a letter from your loved one to you and you’ll be surprised with the information and messages that come through!

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I always wish I had more time for the mini-mediumship readings which I offer on my radio show because of beautiful questions like these. And, if I’ve paraphrased incorrectly or misinterpreted the questions (due to lack of time), my apologies to Joy. However, these particular questions still matter!

Most of the time, during a private reading, all of these questions are answered by the end of the hour without the client even asking them. It’s just impossible for me to do this during a 15 or even 20-minute mini-reading. I can only give you a snippet of what a mediumship reading is like with as many validations and/or messages that your loved ones want to impart to me.

I thank Joy for the questions and hope this post clarifies or explains things a little further for her and to all who read it. There’s so much to learn and know about the Other Side and Spirit, and my beliefs have evolved over the years because of my curiosity, my questions, my studies, and my experiences. Never be afraid to ask questions and find the right answers for you!

One message or belief that has always been a truth for me has never changed, and it’s this: love and Spirit never die. ♥

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Valuable Life Lessons Of Support – Follow-up To Today’s Radio Show

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Important and Valuable Messages for Lori and All of Us

As I ended today’s episode of Messages From The Other Side, I felt the need to write further about the messages coming through for my caller, Lori, and within minutes, I made a connection with something that was brought up and we were a little confused by during the conversation.

NOTE: Since Lori called in to a public radio show I am extending her permission to this post & I hope she won’t mind me sharing the added insights here as I have no way to get in touch with her. I also feel that by sharing these added insights, messages and guidance, that they will help others.

The Puzzling Validation and Realization

Lori’s mother came through and brought up a puppy and it turns out that she had made Lori abandon a puppy when she was a child. We weren’t sure how to interpret that other than the validation that her mother was acknowledging a childhood event but I felt there was something more significant to it.

It dawned on me after the show, and what was it?

This is what came to me: “Even though we abandoned the puppy, we haven’t abandoned you.” It was impressed upon me by not only her mother but all of Lori’s loved ones on the Other Side: “You’re not like this puppy. You’re not abandoned.”

Wow. Lori, I hope you’re reading this. This message and insight clicked for me. That was the “something more” I felt but wasn’t seeing when I was spoke to you earlier. I hope it resonates with you as well.

Acknowledgement of Accomplishments

I also want Lori and any of you who have taken the courage to start anew someplace different (whether it’s a new town or a new job or a new relationship) to acknowledge the courage that it took to do so!! Even though things didn’t work out, it was valuable life experience!

First, it taught you you were strong enough to take the risk (of the move, the job, the relationship) and second, if it didn’t work out, it taught you what you don’t want in your life thereby teaching you what you DO want in your life/job/relationship. How cool is that?

One of the best ways I know to discover what you want in your life, and who you want in your life (personally and professionally), is to actually live and acquire life experience! Sometimes the life experience will be good, sometimes it’ll be bad but you always learn valuable lessons from both experiences!

A hawk flew into my yard during today’s conversation.

Valuable Life Lessons of Self-Support

Thought you’d like to live in a small town or work from home but you discovered it’s far too isolating for you and is even a bit unhealthy for you? That’s great! You NOW know you need to find work outside the home or make the effort to balance working from home with taking the time to network with other like-minded individuals and spend time with friends. You can create a balance.

If you can’t do so in that small town, then it’s okay to move to a larger town where there is probably a more diverse demographic, museums, theatres, festivals, activities, hiking or biking trails – where the town encourages you to be more active and more social. And you might find that works better for you so honor the lessons and the choice to move as a sign of self-support.

Remember, if you hadn’t taken the chance to experience the move or the change in job, you would never have learned what you really need and want in your life, what is acceptable and unacceptable to you, and how you can be healthier and happier.

Acknowledge your courage to take that risk and acknowledge the lessons learned from that experience. Those lessons are invaluable to creating the life you want.

How? You’ve found what doesn’t work for you and that leads you to making educated, and more supportive decisions, so you can live a life that you love with whom you love, so that’s a good thing!  😀

Additional Support Which You Might Not Recognize

For Lori: I don’t know if you rescued those two cats in the town where you now live, but if you did, can you see that, perhaps, one of the reasons you moved there was to do just that? To help these cats? Adopt them and add joy and compassion to your life and theirs? You are there to support each other. How beautiful is that?

And, if you rescued them before you made the move, could the reason you felt compelled to do so was because they knew (and you did too) that they could give you support realizing there was a possibility that the small town was going to be too isolating for you? That your intuition knew the cats would help you cope?

As I mentioned on today’s show, we get to choose what holds significance in our lives. No one else has to agree with that significance, it is our own to embrace.

It is a way for us to offer ourselves support when we don’t feel supported by anyone around us. It is a way for us to cope with life’s challenges, big or small.

Don’t devalue yourself or your efforts or your risk-taking. Within every step you take, every decision you make, there is a valuable lesson of self-support in it (or lack thereof). And you know what? Sometimes you have to make the “wrong” decision or a “bad” decision to know what is the right decision for YOU.

How many of us learn the easy way? Not many, huh? Most times, we have to experience challenging events, relationships, jobs, moves, trials in order for us to learn how to love ourselves, respect ourselves and support ourselves. When we can do that, we can truly change our lives for the better, be healthier, happier, and more loving to ourselves and the world around us.

Please don’t forget to send healing and positive wishes to Lori in Acme, Washington. Let her feel our support and encouragement to honoring her decision to move to a healthier and happier place with her two cats.  🙂 Thank you!

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So, tell me, how are you learning to support and respect yourself, your decisions, your health and well-being? What challenges either big or small have taught you valuable life lessons that helped you improve and support your life in the best way possible?

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You Teach What You Most Need To Learn

Saturday’s show was great. It was a wonderful reminder of: “You teach what you most need to learn at the moment.”

As you can hear in my conversations, I could relate to both of my callers. The more I connect with people’s loved ones on the Other Side, the more I feel the connection we all have with each other and how helping one of us can truly help us all.

As I tried to explain to my husband who often asks me how I hear, sense, feel, know things, (yes, I’m grilled in my own home about such things!), I am often guided to talk or share about experiences or perceptions in my life and while that may seem to listeners like I’m going off on a tangent, I’m not. Within a minute or so, you hear that it directly pertains to my caller or client and what they’re experiencing in their lives. They just haven’t mentioned it yet! I love it when that happens. 🙂

You see, the loved one(s) I connect with instantly puts in my mind what I need to share and I go with the flow. I’ve learned to trust the process, the conversation. It seems our loved ones really do know what we are grappling with in our lives and what we may be afraid to ask or admit. There is a great level of compassion for our struggles here in the physical world.

Spirit then offers advice or guidance for my caller’s or client’s highest good because I always set that intention prior to my radio show and prior to any reading. And I’ve come to learn that the advice or guidance which comes through can often be helpful to me. The times when it is so obvious, like during Saturday’s show, I make a mental note of the words of support and encouragement and know they were meant for me too. I thank my guides and the Divine for seeing the connection.

Life works in mysterious and wondrous ways, doesn’t it?

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Another interesting thing that can happen, on my side of the readings, is that when I make a connection, I can feel the love, the compassion, and yes, the sorrow from both parties. In this case, I obviously picked up on the first caller’s anxieties because after I hung up, that extra anxiety was gone.

I still have my own stuff to deal with but that extra tightness and stress I had felt a couple of hours before the show had dissipated. And the other nice thing? The love and support I sense and feel from my caller’s loved ones lingers, offering me that same sense of love and support that I could use. I thank Spirit for that as well.

And the messages received on Saturday were so beautiful!!! As I look at the roses my husband gave me and which I brought into the office for the support I felt I needed, the caller’s grandmother’s message to her to bring in fresh cut flowers into her home and make sure to keep them fresh:

“As you take care of them, it’ll encourage you to take care of yourself.”

How beautiful is that??

And the second caller’s loved one had another important message as he sought a guarantee of a possible future for him. The message referring to Sonia Choquette’s motto: “Trust Your Vibes.” Spirit knows how important her work is to me and how she helped me get through severe post-partum depression more than 20 years ago. Her writings, her life have inspired me and helped me ever since. So I gladly passed on not only that message and recommendation but this last one from the caller’s grandmother (or great-grandmother?):

“You’re in capable hands…and they’re your own.”

Wow. That was impactful for me as well.

So next time you hear yourself offering some advice or guidance, listen carefully to see if it relates to you as well. Then, follow it. 🙂

 

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New Look For My Site Is Complete!

Update: 6/21/2014: Omgosh, this is embarrassing. Going through my drafts of posts and found this one that I thought I published several months ago! Oops.Well, it’s a little late but still pertinent.

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I’m so excited to present you with my new site. It has all the same great information a little bit rearranged, some condensing, a little bit of re-writing, and added insights. I love it! I hope you do too. 😀

First and foremost, I pulled together all of the questions I am asked during readings or when someone calls into my radio show. I want to let you know that you are not alone in your grief, your curiosity, or your skepticism about life after death. You are not alone on your journey and with your experiences.

So many people have the same questions that you have, the same yearning to know more, the same yearning to communicate with their loved ones. You are not crazy to want this, or to explore this possibility. If you experience a connection only to dismiss it as wishful thinking, know that it is/was not your imagination.

Please know this…

You are loved. You are connected. You are supported.

You are loved. You are connected. You are supported.

Second, I made it as easy as possible to connect with me linking all pages to my main Contact Me page. I also updated the FAQs page covering questions asked about me and the specifics of my business.

Third, I will begin posting on a weekly basis. I’ll talk about additional insights about a mini-reading I may have done on my Saturday show, or insights I’ve had during the week in my own life. I’ll have tips and advice on how you can develop and trust your own intuition and experiences.

I am still working on a new Intuitive Life Coaching page (just doesn’t feel “right” yet), and want to include questions you may have about that.

I’m very pleased with the fresh new look and I hope you are too! Please let me know if I can be of service to you with regard to mediumship or intuitive life coaching.

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