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Messages From The Other Side #12 – June 2, 2019

Hello, everyone!

Spirit called for me to do something different today, on the 10-year mark of my mother’s passing.

I’m talking about grief: how to honor your own journey with grief and how to honor your loved one who has passed away…which, in turn, honors your grief.

This is also for those who may not have suffered a loss but may want to help a friend, family member, or colleague/co-worker with their grieving.

Grab a glass of water or a cup of tea, and sit back as I help you acknowledge all the ways you already are honoring your loved one(s) who have passed away, and also acknowledge and honor your own journey with grief.

I hope you find this video helpful, and healing.

Love and light,

~Lisa

 

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Messages From The Other Side #9 – May 12, 2019

I’m using both Abby Wynne’s The Book of Healing Affirmations & Louise Hay‘s Power Thought Cards for this week! Once again, they support each other’s message beautifully.

This is what I was trying to say in the video: As you take care of yourself, you’ll want to take care of your home and, as you take care of your home, you’ll want to take care of yourself. ūüėÄ

Plus, I share my gratitude with you for taking the time to watch these videos. I so appreciate your support as I rebuild my life after loss.

Love and light,

~Lisa

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Valuable Life Lessons Of Support – Follow-up To Today’s Radio Show

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Important and Valuable Messages for Lori and All of Us

As I ended today’s episode of¬†Messages From The Other Side, I felt the need to write further about the messages coming through for my caller, Lori, and within minutes, I made a connection with something that was brought up and we were a little confused by during the conversation.

NOTE: Since Lori called in to a public radio show I am extending her permission to this post & I hope¬†she won’t mind me sharing the added insights here as I have no way to get in touch with her. I also feel that by sharing these added insights, messages and guidance, that they will help others.

The Puzzling Validation and Realization

Lori’s¬†mother came through and brought up a puppy and it turns out that she had¬†made Lori abandon a puppy when she was a child. We weren’t sure how to interpret that other than the validation that¬†her mother was¬†acknowledging a¬†childhood event but I felt there was something more significant to it.

It dawned on me after the show, and what was it?

This is what came to me: “Even though we abandoned the puppy, we haven’t abandoned you.” It was impressed upon me by not only her mother but all of Lori’s loved ones on the Other Side: “You’re not like this puppy. You’re not abandoned.”

Wow. Lori, I hope you’re reading this.¬†This message and insight clicked for me. That was the “something more” I felt but wasn’t seeing when I was spoke to you earlier. I hope it resonates with you as well.

Acknowledgement of Accomplishments

I also want Lori and any of you who have taken the courage to start anew someplace different (whether it’s a new town or a new job or a new relationship) to acknowledge the courage that it took to do so!! Even though things didn’t work out,¬†it was valuable life experience!

First, it taught you you were strong enough to take the risk (of the move, the job, the relationship) and second, if it didn’t work out, it taught you what you don’t¬†want in your life thereby teaching you what you DO want in your life/job/relationship. How cool is that?

One of the best ways I know to discover what you want in your life, and who you want in your life (personally and professionally), is to actually live and acquire life experience! Sometimes the life experience will be good, sometimes it’ll be bad but you always learn valuable lessons from both experiences!

A hawk flew into my yard during today’s conversation.

Valuable Life Lessons of Self-Support

Thought you’d like to live in a small town or work from home but you discovered it’s far too isolating for you and is even a bit unhealthy for you? That’s great! You NOW know you need to find work outside the home or make the effort to balance working from home with taking the time to network with other like-minded individuals and spend time with friends. You can create a balance.

If you can’t do so in that small town, then it’s okay to move to a larger town where there is probably a more diverse demographic, museums, theatres, festivals, activities, hiking or biking trails – where the town encourages you to be more active and more social. And you might find that works better for you so honor the lessons and the choice to move as a sign of self-support.

Remember, if you hadn’t taken the chance to experience the move or the change in job, you would never have learned what you really need and want in your life, what is acceptable and unacceptable to you, and how you can be healthier and happier.

Acknowledge your courage to take that risk and acknowledge the lessons learned from that experience. Those lessons are invaluable to creating the life you want.

How? You’ve found what doesn’t work for you and that leads you to making educated, and more supportive decisions, so you can¬†live¬†a life that you love with whom you love, so that’s a good thing! ¬†ūüėÄ

Additional Support Which You Might Not Recognize

For Lori:¬†I don’t know if you rescued those two cats in the town where you now live, but if you did, can you see that, perhaps, one of the reasons you moved there was to do just that? To help these cats? Adopt them and add joy and compassion to your life and theirs? You are there to support each other. How beautiful is that?

And, if you rescued them before you made the move, could the reason you felt compelled to do so was because they knew (and you did too) that they could give you support realizing there was a possibility that the small town was going to be too isolating for you? That your intuition knew the cats would help you cope?

As I mentioned on today’s show, we get to¬†choose what holds significance in our lives. No one else has to agree with that significance, it is our own to embrace.

It is a way for us to offer ourselves support when we don’t feel supported by anyone around us. It is a way for us to cope with life’s challenges, big or small.

Don’t devalue yourself or your efforts or your risk-taking. Within every step you take, every decision you make, there is a valuable lesson of self-support in it (or lack thereof). And you know what? Sometimes you have to make the “wrong” decision or a “bad” decision to know what is the right decision for YOU.

How many of us learn the easy way? Not many, huh? Most times, we have to experience challenging events, relationships, jobs, moves, trials in order for us to learn how to love ourselves, respect ourselves and support ourselves. When we can do that, we can truly change our lives for the better, be healthier, happier, and more loving to ourselves and the world around us.

Please don’t forget to¬†send healing and positive wishes to Lori in Acme, Washington. Let her feel our support and encouragement to honoring her decision to move to a healthier and happier place with her two cats. ¬†ūüôā Thank you!

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So, tell me, how are you learning to support and respect yourself, your decisions, your health and well-being? What challenges either big or small have taught you valuable life lessons that helped you improve and support your life in the best way possible?

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My Mother’s Losses

May I suggest you read my About Me>How It All Began page¬†before reading this post? It’ll make more sense if you do.

I think one of the main reasons my mother had such an interest in the Other Side and wanting to know if someone’s spirit lived on after death, was because she suffered the loss of the two most important women in her life: her older sister and her mother.

My mom’s sister, Marilyn contracted polio and was placed in an iron lung shortly after giving birth to a daughter (my cousin whom I’ve never met and I’ve heard has led a truly sad life).

Marilyn died because of a miscommunication between her and her nurse. Marilyn was trying to tell the nurse one of two things, either “I’m wet.” or “I can’t breathe.” Whichever it was, the nurse thought it was the other and opened up the iron lung thus stopping the automated compression that was keeping Marilyn breathing and…she died.

Snapshot of Mom

My mom’s high school photo.

My mom was only 17 years old at the time and was getting married in three months. Marilyn was only 20. Sadly, I cannot find a photograph of Marilyn anywhere.

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My mom spoke lovingly about her sister and often said I reminded her of Marilyn in the way I stood & carried myself; my posture. And I was tall like Marilyn too…well, relatively speaking. I’m the tallest female in the family at 5 ft. 4 in. My mom was 5 ft. 2 in. and both of my sisters (older & younger) are, I believe, shorter than my mom. And Marilyn? I don’t know but I’m guessing she was between 5 ft. 4 in. and 5 ft. 7 in. tall.

I remember trying to contact Marilyn one day with my mom using the Oujia Board (I do not recommend doing this nowadays), and I believe we did. The energy spelled out a phrase that only my mom’s sister used. My mother was convinced it was her since she had never heard anyone else use that phrase…ever. I think that connection gave my mother the reassurance and validation she so desperately needed.

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About 10-12 years after she lost her sister, my mother lost her¬†mother. I have vague memories of my grandmother and I think she passed away while I was very young, under the age of five. I’ve been trying to track down the exact year but haven’t had any luck…so far.

My grandmother was another woman in my mom’s life whom she looked up to and again, spoke very lovingly about all of her life. My mom often said she wished “you kids” had known her mother. Her mother was an extremely talented seamstress and a generous, kind soul married, unfortunately, to a tyrant who was charming and generous to those outside the home but who was stingy and verbally and, I believe, physically abusive inside the home to his wife and family.

My mother would tell us that her mother, a smart, frugal woman would use coupons so she could set aside the cash she saved on groceries from the food allowance her controlling and abusive husband gave her. I believe she used that money to discreetly buy what she needed for sewing. My grandmother was also never allowed to learn how to drive and walked or took the bus everywhere she needed to go.

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The heartache of losing and missing the two most important women in her life was something my mother never got over and the more I think about it, the more I believe she not only wanted proof that they were still alive in spirit but that they were safe and finally happy, and were still around her, a part of her life.

If I can bring a sense of hope, love, joy, and perhaps, even a little peace to someone here by connecting their loved ones to them then it is worth me trying to do so. Despite my mother being a very private person with her interest in this field kept very quiet, I like to think she’d approve. ūüôā

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