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A Reminder to Let Go of Our Expectations

Once again, the Universe seems to be sending me messages…or is that Hank? I was immediately drawn to this post from October 2013. It’s about letting go of our expectations of HOW messages or opportunities come to us, and the art of connecting with people (and why it’s so important for people like me…mediums).

Briefly, when we have the how we want to hear from our loved one: a touch on the shoulder, hear his/her voice audibly, have a visit in our dreams, feel their presence, set in our minds, we can miss the ways they ARE communicating with us.

Remember, their strength may be sending you their name all the time but if you have it in your head that you want to actually SEE a vision of them, you’ll ignore the instances of seeing or hearing their name everywhere. You’ll see those as coincidences rather than signs and simply dismiss them.

As you know, I’ve had trouble connecting with my beloved on the Other Side. Then I catch myself thinking, but have I really? I want to sense Hank near me, I want to FEEL his presence. And because of that, have I been dismissing the signs he IS sending me?

Like going for a walk several months ago, crying and talking to him (yeah, my neighbors probably think I’m crazy but I don’t care plus a lot of them know I’m a recent widow anyway), and pleading for him to help us financially, we desperately needed money for food.

As I began my walk, I had to cross over to the other side of the street because there were neighbors with a dog that I really didn’t want to talk to ahead of me. (Note: I never walk on that side of the street going that way.)

As I sobbed and pleaded to Hank, “We need money NOW!” I looked down and there was a $5 bill amongst the leaves next to the curb!

I looked around for another person who may have dropped it but there was no one. I thanked Hank profusely and asked him (along with all his guides and angels) to keep helping us financially.

know he’s been working overtime helping us survive, so why am I not registering these little acts of assistance as him connecting with me? I mean, I am…but I’m not, you know?

One thing Hank was, was a hard worker and a good provider. Somehow, we’d make enough to squeak by every month. Even when a job fell through, he’d have a call within a day for a side job to make up for it. And because I am, by nature, frugal, I made sure we saved everywhere we could to stretch the money he made as far as it could go. We never had “extra” due to my unfortunate unemployment, but we had enough for bills…just.

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So this week, think back, and pay attention to the little things that worked (and work) out in your life, the happy accidents or the synchronicities. What were your expectations of a call, situation, meeting, event? Did you adapt or hold tight to those expectations and what were the results?

Have you asked your loved one to “show themselves” while ignoring more subtle signs from them? Don’t dismiss the subtle signs! Thank them for the unexpected sign so they know they can use that same sign again and again to let their presence known to you to offer you comfort. Write them down and date them and I bet you’ll see a pattern emerge.

I’m trying to remember to do this myself so I can fully acknowledge Hank’s communications with me, so I’m right there with you!

For another great example of letting go of your expectations on HOW you may get a sign or message or guidance, please click here.

Love and light,

Lisa

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Valuable Life Lessons Of Support – Follow-up To Today’s Radio Show

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Important and Valuable Messages for Lori and All of Us

As I ended today’s episode of Messages From The Other Side, I felt the need to write further about the messages coming through for my caller, Lori, and within minutes, I made a connection with something that was brought up and we were a little confused by during the conversation.

NOTE: Since Lori called in to a public radio show I am extending her permission to this post & I hope she won’t mind me sharing the added insights here as I have no way to get in touch with her. I also feel that by sharing these added insights, messages and guidance, that they will help others.

The Puzzling Validation and Realization

Lori’s mother came through and brought up a puppy and it turns out that she had made Lori abandon a puppy when she was a child. We weren’t sure how to interpret that other than the validation that her mother was acknowledging a childhood event but I felt there was something more significant to it.

It dawned on me after the show, and what was it?

This is what came to me: “Even though we abandoned the puppy, we haven’t abandoned you.” It was impressed upon me by not only her mother but all of Lori’s loved ones on the Other Side: “You’re not like this puppy. You’re not abandoned.”

Wow. Lori, I hope you’re reading this. This message and insight clicked for me. That was the “something more” I felt but wasn’t seeing when I was spoke to you earlier. I hope it resonates with you as well.

Acknowledgement of Accomplishments

I also want Lori and any of you who have taken the courage to start anew someplace different (whether it’s a new town or a new job or a new relationship) to acknowledge the courage that it took to do so!! Even though things didn’t work out, it was valuable life experience!

First, it taught you you were strong enough to take the risk (of the move, the job, the relationship) and second, if it didn’t work out, it taught you what you don’t want in your life thereby teaching you what you DO want in your life/job/relationship. How cool is that?

One of the best ways I know to discover what you want in your life, and who you want in your life (personally and professionally), is to actually live and acquire life experience! Sometimes the life experience will be good, sometimes it’ll be bad but you always learn valuable lessons from both experiences!

A hawk flew into my yard during today’s conversation.

Valuable Life Lessons of Self-Support

Thought you’d like to live in a small town or work from home but you discovered it’s far too isolating for you and is even a bit unhealthy for you? That’s great! You NOW know you need to find work outside the home or make the effort to balance working from home with taking the time to network with other like-minded individuals and spend time with friends. You can create a balance.

If you can’t do so in that small town, then it’s okay to move to a larger town where there is probably a more diverse demographic, museums, theatres, festivals, activities, hiking or biking trails – where the town encourages you to be more active and more social. And you might find that works better for you so honor the lessons and the choice to move as a sign of self-support.

Remember, if you hadn’t taken the chance to experience the move or the change in job, you would never have learned what you really need and want in your life, what is acceptable and unacceptable to you, and how you can be healthier and happier.

Acknowledge your courage to take that risk and acknowledge the lessons learned from that experience. Those lessons are invaluable to creating the life you want.

How? You’ve found what doesn’t work for you and that leads you to making educated, and more supportive decisions, so you can live a life that you love with whom you love, so that’s a good thing!  😀

Additional Support Which You Might Not Recognize

For Lori: I don’t know if you rescued those two cats in the town where you now live, but if you did, can you see that, perhaps, one of the reasons you moved there was to do just that? To help these cats? Adopt them and add joy and compassion to your life and theirs? You are there to support each other. How beautiful is that?

And, if you rescued them before you made the move, could the reason you felt compelled to do so was because they knew (and you did too) that they could give you support realizing there was a possibility that the small town was going to be too isolating for you? That your intuition knew the cats would help you cope?

As I mentioned on today’s show, we get to choose what holds significance in our lives. No one else has to agree with that significance, it is our own to embrace.

It is a way for us to offer ourselves support when we don’t feel supported by anyone around us. It is a way for us to cope with life’s challenges, big or small.

Don’t devalue yourself or your efforts or your risk-taking. Within every step you take, every decision you make, there is a valuable lesson of self-support in it (or lack thereof). And you know what? Sometimes you have to make the “wrong” decision or a “bad” decision to know what is the right decision for YOU.

How many of us learn the easy way? Not many, huh? Most times, we have to experience challenging events, relationships, jobs, moves, trials in order for us to learn how to love ourselves, respect ourselves and support ourselves. When we can do that, we can truly change our lives for the better, be healthier, happier, and more loving to ourselves and the world around us.

Please don’t forget to send healing and positive wishes to Lori in Acme, Washington. Let her feel our support and encouragement to honoring her decision to move to a healthier and happier place with her two cats.  🙂 Thank you!

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So, tell me, how are you learning to support and respect yourself, your decisions, your health and well-being? What challenges either big or small have taught you valuable life lessons that helped you improve and support your life in the best way possible?

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You Teach What You Most Need To Learn

Saturday’s show was great. It was a wonderful reminder of: “You teach what you most need to learn at the moment.”

As you can hear in my conversations, I could relate to both of my callers. The more I connect with people’s loved ones on the Other Side, the more I feel the connection we all have with each other and how helping one of us can truly help us all.

As I tried to explain to my husband who often asks me how I hear, sense, feel, know things, (yes, I’m grilled in my own home about such things!), I am often guided to talk or share about experiences or perceptions in my life and while that may seem to listeners like I’m going off on a tangent, I’m not. Within a minute or so, you hear that it directly pertains to my caller or client and what they’re experiencing in their lives. They just haven’t mentioned it yet! I love it when that happens. 🙂

You see, the loved one(s) I connect with instantly puts in my mind what I need to share and I go with the flow. I’ve learned to trust the process, the conversation. It seems our loved ones really do know what we are grappling with in our lives and what we may be afraid to ask or admit. There is a great level of compassion for our struggles here in the physical world.

Spirit then offers advice or guidance for my caller’s or client’s highest good because I always set that intention prior to my radio show and prior to any reading. And I’ve come to learn that the advice or guidance which comes through can often be helpful to me. The times when it is so obvious, like during Saturday’s show, I make a mental note of the words of support and encouragement and know they were meant for me too. I thank my guides and the Divine for seeing the connection.

Life works in mysterious and wondrous ways, doesn’t it?

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Another interesting thing that can happen, on my side of the readings, is that when I make a connection, I can feel the love, the compassion, and yes, the sorrow from both parties. In this case, I obviously picked up on the first caller’s anxieties because after I hung up, that extra anxiety was gone.

I still have my own stuff to deal with but that extra tightness and stress I had felt a couple of hours before the show had dissipated. And the other nice thing? The love and support I sense and feel from my caller’s loved ones lingers, offering me that same sense of love and support that I could use. I thank Spirit for that as well.

And the messages received on Saturday were so beautiful!!! As I look at the roses my husband gave me and which I brought into the office for the support I felt I needed, the caller’s grandmother’s message to her to bring in fresh cut flowers into her home and make sure to keep them fresh:

“As you take care of them, it’ll encourage you to take care of yourself.”

How beautiful is that??

And the second caller’s loved one had another important message as he sought a guarantee of a possible future for him. The message referring to Sonia Choquette’s motto: “Trust Your Vibes.” Spirit knows how important her work is to me and how she helped me get through severe post-partum depression more than 20 years ago. Her writings, her life have inspired me and helped me ever since. So I gladly passed on not only that message and recommendation but this last one from the caller’s grandmother (or great-grandmother?):

“You’re in capable hands…and they’re your own.”

Wow. That was impactful for me as well.

So next time you hear yourself offering some advice or guidance, listen carefully to see if it relates to you as well. Then, follow it. 🙂

 

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